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What can i expect when i become a newlywed?

I am getting married on august 25th of this year and i am very affraid of what to expect out of a brand new marriage but alot of arguing and sexin the beginning


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Interesting that you asked this as an "Arts & Humanities" Question. And appropriate. For a good marriage is the finest of fine arts and the most human of the humanities.

But NOT arguing -- it's deciding. Just remember, whatever your relationship has been, the first year of marriage is a year of firsts. Each decision you make you are now making with someone else. First out of town trip as a married couple. First monthly bills as a married couple. First shopping trip as a married couple. First bad winter day. First dinner party. First picnic in the park with friends. First crisis in your spouse's work. First crisis in your work. First move to another apartment. First yard work in the spring. Every little decision is a new decision 'cause you two are now one. So don't quarrel; don't argue. (I don't remember any of that at all.) Just decide. Together.

Now, I go back to the olden days. Things are very different now, and I'm not so sure they're all that better. In those days, marriage meant first sex (well, almost -- the first real sex). Now that was so exciting, everything else seemed secondary. 'Way secondary!

Then after ten months (minus a week), as we were driving to the hospital for the birth of our son, I felt a moment of resentment -- a real pang. For that first year had been so rich and full that I didn't look forward to an intruder. Two had become one, and one was enough.

But, you know what, that lasted maybe five minutes. Then there was another first. Our first child. Instantaneous bonding. And two had become three!

Through all the years we have laughed together, we have worried together; we have worked together, we have grieved together; we have grown up together and grown old together; we have learned together and taught together, feasted together and dieted together, sung together and slept together.

And, guess what! Every year is another year of firsts. Of deciding together. The first grandchild. The first serious illness. The first day of retirement. The first trip to visit that first son, who now lives on the other side of the globe. Now we reminisce together, and (regrettably) we forget together. We forget where we put the remote control, where we put the cell phone, where we put the keys, somebody's name (OK, almost everybody's name, on occasion), which bills we've paid, that we had tickets to see The Lion King! Oh well . . . .

So look forward to every day of every year. (If you don't, rethink this first decision you've made together.)

What to expect out of a brand new marriage? A lot of sex (oh, yeah!). A lot of deciding (oh, yeah, that too!) And a whole lot of firsts.