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I'm white and love black women do u?


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Scooby,
There is nothing wrong with loving a woman from a different race. But, you should consider a couple of things:
1. Some people pursue and even marry a person of a different race because they feel inferior to the opposite sex in their own race. Fearing rejection they go after another race and in their mind tell themselves "she is so exotic." At the same time, she may have been rejected in her own race and that's why she is seeing you. This is just two insecure people feeding of one another's insecurities.
2. Knowing the pressures on you and on whoever you date, adding in the color issue clouds many of the underlying issues that you need to resolve before you get serious.
3. Consider that by rejecting society's expectations you may close off opportunities to provide for your mate. Whether your culture accepts or rejects these things is vital. If your home culture has a problem with interracial relationships then you add another layer of conflict to a relationship that is already under pressure.
4. If you live in a culture that hasn't got a problem, and anywhere you find a military base or presence, in this country or others, you will find more acceptance. This acceptance is growing but will still create problems for some time to come.
5. Do you plan to have kids one day? Which culture will they fit into best?
6. Does the color difference also bring with it a religious background difference? Will she possibly have to reject her own family in order to be with you? Is that a selfish thing for both of you or just for you?
Nothing wrong with loving if it is really love and not just lust for someone you think won't reject you. I wish you the best as you think through these issues, alone, and with her. Take care.