im 15 but i have extremely low confidence!. im super shy and i HATE being this way!. its gotten to the point where i lost all my friends and don't have any friends anymore!. I really need help!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
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Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: Mainee, I've got more experience with this than I like; a family member has Social Anxiety Disorder, her shyness fairly crippling!. Books that we got her, on the recommendation of her therapist, were: **Dying of Embarrassment: Help for Social Anxiety & Phobia!. Markway BG, Carmin CN, Pollard CA, Pollard CA, Flynn T!. New Harbinger Publications, Oakland, CA, 1992!. *Painfully Shy: How to Overcome Social Anxiety and Reclaim you Life!. Markway BG, St!. Martin's Press, New York, 2001!. *The Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven Techniques for Overcoming Your Fear!. Antony MM, Swinson RP!. New Harbinger Publications, Oakland, CA, 2000!. What these titles (and dozens more--I only gave the three she liked best) do is provide explanation and simple exercises you can do to help yourself, mostly practicing simple social interactions with people you either don't care about or won't see again!. BTW, the shy girl is 23 now, still shy, but goes to school, works, has boyfriends, and is reasonably happy!.Www@QuestionHome@Com Join a club that your interested in!. Or maybe join a girl scout troop!. You have to start telling yourself that your not shy, your a beautiful, confident young lady, and nothing is going to stop you from being happy!. Do something you never thought of doing, like embarresing yourself at the mall on purpose!. Everytime I go to K-Mart, Wal-Mart, or Target, etc, and the loud speaker comes on, I always put my hands on my head like the noise is really loud, and start saying "THE VOICES, THEY'RE BACK!" loud, but not too loud!. You don't want everyone to think your crazy!. When your in the mall, dance to your favorite song, say hi to random people!. Little things like that can really help!.Www@QuestionHome@Com Try reading some Carlos castanada their about a young man who goes on a journey to becom a yaqi indian man of knowledge the series is ahrd to find but if can actually read them and let yourself in to the free open minded way theese ppl live it could easily help you find your inner you and make you have confidence in that!. Maybe the door of perception it's an old old book but theyre the kind of book that makeyou think abuot hwta kind of person you are where your path can bring you and they make you think about what you are and want to change that but they let you make the decisions cause theyre not self help books they just help open you up!Www@QuestionHome@Com I am the exact same way and I have learned that I have Social Anxiety Disorder!. I've read all the books, and none have helped!. If you are just shy, trying setting a new goal for yourself everyday!. Talk to one new person, go into a new place etc!. If that is to much for you talk to a doctor!. I have gone from not being able to order food in a restaurant to leading a normal life!. Www@QuestionHome@Com i'm in the same situation!. im 17!. i would just reccomend postpone socialising until after you've finished ur education, then you have nothing to worry about and you can talk to people!. life will eventually help you overcome shyness thats what i think anyway i dunno!.Www@QuestionHome@Com I would recommend: The Truth About Forever by Sarah Dessen this book has many different insights!. Www@QuestionHome@Com I would go back to a book written long ago but still very valid How To Win Friends and Influence People!. Pax-CWww@QuestionHome@Com |