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Question: I need help ideas please!?
okay so i have 5 kids!. 17,14,13 and 9!. There all girls except the 17 year old he my little boy well not so little!. They all get in trouble alot but the one who gets in the most trouble is the 14 year old girl!. freshman in high school!. well with all the others when they screw up they get grounded or they get something taken away from them( no computer for a week things like that) well my problem is she doesn't respond to grounding or takening away things!. I need strict humilitings punishments!. like really good ones like maybe wearing a diapper for a day or rubbing my feet!. any other ideas or storys i would love to here!? the more stricter the better thanks!Www@QuestionHome@Com


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Chores you would not normally have her do like washing down the walls with a Mr!. Clean magic eraser or raking leaves and bagging them!. This works best if she knows what her punishment will be if she does the crime!.
With some kids, punishment is not effective because they either do not mind the punishment or they feel like a victim so much that they neglect to acknowledge that THEY are the ones who did something wrong!. I care for a child like this!. With him it is best to keep him so busy that he does not have time to make trouble!. He knows that he does not get the freedom that the other kids have, like getting to play in the other room while I wash dishes, which he must earn!. He has to always be in my sight, so if I have to fold a load of laundry, he has to come help me!.
Remind her often to be a good example to the younger ones!. She is the oldest girl right!? Help her discover her talents so that she can keep busy staying out of trouble!. Is she artistic or athletic!? Would she like to learn to cook!? Does she like to take photos!? If joining a club or taking a recreational class is not an option then maybe your family can do this stuff together!. Check your library or town's Recreation center for low cost activities!. Make a strict schedule for her!. This way she knows what is expected and will eventually be able to do this for herself!. For example: In my family everyone knows when we get home from school we have a snack and then it is homework time!. This gets done without an announcement!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Conversation with daughter:

"Honey look, I want to see you succeed in life and feel happy!. I also want you to know that you can talk to me about any, anything!. Is there anything happening in your life that is bothering you or making you angry!? I want you to know that I love you and we can work this out together, whatever it is!. I really do love you and want to see you living a happy, healthy life!. Would you be willing to talk to me about the problems you've been having!?Www@QuestionHome@Com