How can you soften the heart of someone who is hard and cold hearted?

Question: How can you soften the heart of someone who is hard and cold hearted!?

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Inside every cold exterior is a frightened little boy (or girl) who just wants to be loved and understood!.

Be nice!. let them speak!. Let it be their show!. That's all it takes, because youre letting them be themself!. Everybody wants that!.

And usually such people dont get to,!. because they chase people away!.

So if you never tell them theyre wrong, and just concentrate on the things you can agree with, then they will experience you as a very positive person who understands them and always leaves them feeling good!. And they will warm up to you!.

-not because you tricked them in any way, or did things to have an effect!.!.!.but because you genuinely just treated them like a person, and let them be who they are and didnt condemn them in any way!.
you let them come out, and shine!.
and feel safe to do so!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Crack open their rib cage, pull out their heart, heat it in the microwave for about 15 minutes on low power, taking it out every five minutes to give if a good two-minute work-over with a meat tenderizer!.

If that doesn't soften it, nothing will!. ;-)

Okay, okay, so that wasn't a serious answer!. So sue me!. ;-) For a serious answer to the question, I'd say all you can do is work at it and bide your time!. Viewing the heart as something akin to clay, you have to work it for awhile sometimes - knead it slowly and gently and eventually, it will warm up and become more soft & pliable!. You "knead" a human heart (in the figurative sense) by simply letting your feelings show to that person and asking them how they feel!. That kind of activity will at least let them know that you actually give a fig about them - usually the first step in becoming a friend to someone!. A lot of people are cold and detached because they've been hurt or betrayed and don't like trusting people!. Only time and your gentle efforts will ever be able to show them that you're not like that!.

And don't engage in any type of back-biting or betrayal behaviors, else they'll slam the door shut on you permanently!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I don't think there is anything you can do to change someone!.
You can just try to be loving without any judgements!.
It's up to that person whether or not they want to change or are receptive to your energy!.
Sometimes it takes a matter of time and good experiences to replace the past events that have caused them to become like that!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Everyone is looking for love and wants to feel special in some way!. The best approach is to be a willing listener and a friend who does not find fault or judge anyone's actions!. That will gradually break down the barriers they've set up to protect their inner person from the cold world around them!.

You know, this almost reminds of "The Horse Whisperer" who was able to tame wild horses with kindness and care!. I guess people are like that too!. I recall reading about some people who had tears in their eyes when they saw the methods used because it can just as easily be applied to humans!. Maybe look it up some day when you have a moment to spare!. Good luck!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

A cold-hearted criminal can't be soften!. But since you are curious there are several ways!. One, you have to live with him to get into his psyche!. Second, you must enjoy what he is doing!. Third, you should redefine good and evil based on his psyche!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

make them open up!. then listen to their problems then give helpful valuable input!. they might start to open up to you!. but to soften their heart toward the entire world is impossible cause they can learn to do that themselves!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

Talk to them until they reveal something private/ personal about themselves!. Just start talking to them about the most random thing, and go from there!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

Bring up something from their past or childhood such as family related issues or good family memories!. Childhood toys, places they went as a child, etc!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

With kindness and love

Positive input to counter react their

Negative output

I have done it so many times it is not funny

Love & Blessings
MillyWww@QuestionHome@Com

Ask for a miracle to open their heart which comes from them seeing things differently!. Follow the voice of miracles!.Www@QuestionHome@Com