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Question: If you've ever been through a tough time!.!.!?
What's the best piece of advide that helped you get through it!?

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hhmm, dont let it consume you

ask for and get help

accept your part in anything that happened instead of deny, ignore and feel guilt and regret over it
accept it, and move on

accept life is suffering , and we have to make the good ourselves, as it doesnt come looking for us, but the bad does

talk, think, and try to use that positively, ie dont just talk, think and over think
think and try to come to some conclusion and actively change your life and how you are feeling with it
as this is the ONLY way your life will change, is if YOU change it

dont beat yourself up, we ALL go through stuff, do stuff, wish we hadnt wish things were different, but you cant change the past, you can ONLY change your future, who you were is who you were, but not who you are or who you have to be your whole life
life is change, this includes ourselves

learn from the things that happened, that you did or didnt do, thats what life is, a learning experience, so even the bad, has a positive effect, provided you use it in such a way

dont sell yourself short, you are stronger than you may beleive, we all are, and we know this, because we are still here after whatever it is,

learn to like yourself and accept yourself, and accept that if you need to or want to change, then its your choice, not soemthing thats forced on you

take control of your life and yourself, dont let your emotions, or others control you, you are not dictated to by these things, you choose to let them dictate you
if you have any problems you take the right meds, you talk to the right therapist, you do not allow these problems to take over you, YOU take over them, control them

there is NOTHING embarrassing, shameful, selfish or anything else about who you are and how you dealt with or were affected by soemthing that happened
its is how you deal with it after the fact that dictates who you are and who and what you will become

hope that was of some help

you can always message me to talk or anything

i was taught some of this and i learned some of it

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Then I realised that I am making myself feel down by just sitting around, so keeping busy, finding things to do and doing things you like whenever you can will help you get through it!.

Just keep thinking that things will get better and that YOU are much bigger than the feelings you are feeling inside!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I hate to talk about what I have been threw !.But I will tell you it was devastating ! But here's the thing !. You can dwell on past occurrences and try to make sense of what happened !.Doing so is a waste of time and will make you very depressed !.The more you think about it the worse you will be! Or!. Don't think about it !!! It's the past and you are not going to change it ! It's done and over with !.Now stop dwelling about it and devote your time to tomorrow with a positive out look!. Move on and be happy again!!! Your choice!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Stick together!. Always remember that nothing lasts forever - good or bad!.
Talk about it and sort it out!. Argue sometimes it helps you both grow!. Listen!. Stay calm if you can!.

Do something once in a while like going for a meal even if you cannot afford it!. Have fish and chips between you!. You must have something to look forward to!. Even 2 hours in the swimming baths!. This action is to take your mind away from the problems for a brief time to give your system and mind chance to re-fuel!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

"Everything happens for a reason!." This is so true and even though at the time you cannot even begin to imagine what the reason could be for what you're going through, in time (sometimes a very long time though) you do come to an understanding about the "why" of it all!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

A couple of years ago I broke my back!. While in hospital, my husband died and exactly a month later so did my mum!. Without the help of Jesus, I think I would also have been dead, but he gave me the strength to carry on and my life is now happy and fulfilled!. Talking to him won't hurt and you may find help you never knew existed :)Www@QuestionHome@Com

"This too shall pass"

No matter what happens and how you feel, connect to your feelings!. Write them down and then shred it all away!. Don't read what you write!. At the end of the day, we ALL have own OUR lives!. I have been in a lot of pain for the past two years but I get up everyday and I do my thing!. You have to think about your future, not what you have right now!. Best of Luck to You!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Never lose your belief in yourself!.

Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer!.

When people give you advice don't just hear it, listen to it!.

You are not always right, accept advice even when it hurts!.

Everything comes out right in the end!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

The only way, for me, is to know that life goes on, whatever the circumstances!. And that there is nothing you can do to go back and reverse what happened!.

It may sound silly, but I find it effective!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

This too shall pass!. One day,minute,second at a time!.I'm right where I'm suppose to be!. Put one foot in front of the other!. My favorite--When the going gets tough, the tough go to God, the couch, and Woopi Goldberg movies!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

look after your bodily needs and get plenty of rest!. be extremely kind to yourself and look after yourself!.!.!.you never know when the next learning curve is going to start!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

That which does not kill me only makes me stronger , Nietzsche said that and it was the basic philosophy of my Viking ancestors!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Prayer!
I am 60 years old and have been through much in my life!.
The only one who has seen me through it all is God!
He knows your heart, so give your heart to Him and He will deliver you!Www@QuestionHome@Com

'There is always someone going thru something worse' Www@QuestionHome@Com

I pray, ask friends to pray and turn the situation over to God!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

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