Is "Love" really based upon 'beauty' or on someones 'chara

Question: Is "Love" really based upon 'beauty' or on someones 'character' !?

In my perspective, i believe the only "real" way to fall in love with someone is to truly love the way are are towards you , and is not always about their appearances, or whatever else i've missed!.

If you completely disagree with this then, what makes someone special enough for you to love them !?

Anyhow, some may agree with me, but i would still like to read your words of what you have to say about this, opinions, thoughts or beliefs!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

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Hi Gladis,
Your question is wonderful!. So is love, which is like dancing in dewdrops and flying above the clouds!

BEAUTY:
Having qualities of beauty: exciting aesthetic pleasure; generally pleasing: excellent!.

CHARACTER:
Moral excellence and firmness; one of the attributes or features that make up and distinguish an individual; a place in public esteem or regard: good name!.

Love, to me anyway, is based upon both!. It is difficult to stay 'in love' with someone based on their beauty alone!. It is the same for their character only!. Nobody wants a lover who has good character, but is unattractive!. People generally look for both in their ideal partner!. I looked for nearly forty years for someone to love!. It never worked!. Never!. I finally was at the point of giving up when I said, "well!.!.!. if God wants me to have a man in my life, he'll have to send him to my doorstep"!. He did!. Two weeks later!. God already knew what kind of beauty and attributes that I wanted in a man, so He brought me a man who had both!.

There is one thing that you didn't mention which is really important for connection, and that is 'pheromones'!. Pheromones are a chemical substance produced and serve as a stimulus to the same species in the opposite sex, for one or more behavioral responses!. This is the term called "chemistry" when two people meet!. It is the "desire" you experience, like when your knees turn into 'butter' even from a simple kiss!. If you do not experience this 'chemistry' with a person, it will be difficult to get along with them and be near them!. It will also be unpleasing to have intimate relations with them!. If you are not attracted physically, mentally and chemically to the person you are with, it will not be a pleasing experience!.

Thanks for your question, Gladis!. It was fun answering it!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Love is a pandora's box!. There is no set way a person falls in love, we are all different!. What I've seen is it's random!. I've fallen in love with many women over my lifetime!. Falling in love is not hard, it's finding someone who loves you back that I've had difficulty!.

There is initial attraction, or maybe an unrealized attraction!. Than you get to know the person and you begin to find that you want to spend more time around them!. Their opinion matters to you, and you start to notice how attactive they are!.!.!.!.

It's a mix of beauty and character, it's different from couple to couple!.
It's one of those questions that never had a defined answer!.
We are all in the dark as far as love is concerned!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Actually we are attracted to the opposite sex by scent first!. Looks does play a big part in physical attraction!. For a long lasting relationship I would look for someone who has good character, is willing to do things with me he may not really want to do (As I would for him) willing to communicate and treat me with respect!. Someone who isn't always looking in the mirror playing with his hair or adjusting himself!. Looks can be deceiving so don't always judge a person by looks or physical characteristics!. You may wind up letting go of Prince Charming and wind up with a toad instead!.

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Physical beauty can change over time, but love that's based on a person's character can go on forever, even after death!. Much of what we think we know about love is based on things like songs, TV shows, books, movies, etc!., and it just could be that many of us are more naive about love than we want to admit!. After all, what do we really know about love!? I can't find anything in life that's more wonderful, powerful or important!.!.!.and I feel like I'm just a beginner in finding out about it!. Best wishes to you in your own search for love!Www@QuestionHome@Com

I think everyones character is reflected in their beauty!. If someone appears to be beautiful to you (real beauty, not eyecandy or something like that) their character will reflect it!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Do you honestly think that love is only for the rich, famous and beautiful!?
And don't think that a less beautiful guy will treat you better than a gorgeous one, that is a BIG mistake!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

Love is simply the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own
--- Robert A!. Heinlein

What initially attracts varies all over the spectrum!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Beauty is only skin deep, I perfer characterWww@QuestionHome@Com

I fell in love with the Spirit that resides deep in the heart!
I've been married for nearly 25 years now! Praise the Lord!Www@QuestionHome@Com

I have been loved by some very attractive women and i'm no catch, but they appreciated the fact that we got along with honesty that they found lacking in other more handsome menWww@QuestionHome@Com

both i reckon, but personality is blessed!.
beauty can be shallow!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Yeah you have to get a long! beauty does not mean a thing without any chemistry!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

!.!.!.and i thought it was what i had in my wallet!.!.!.that made me lovable!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I rather think that Love is based upon ignorance,!.!.!.!.I don't think I know anyone who has actually been in love "right off the bat"!.!.!.!.I do know people who have fallen in love and didn't realize it til later and also, People who've realized it way too late!.
If you're looking to ask if Sexual attraction is some form of love, then I'd have to answer "partially" but I don't think it's the ultimate description of love!. Now if you're a guy who's attracted to a girl and she is attracted to you, I think that ups the possibility of a situation that might Develop into love but you have to understand that I only learned this after I was 45 years old!.!.!.Geeeeeesh am I a dummy!!!!!!, I used to have a great aunt and uncle who were married at age 14 (her) and 15 (him)!.!.!.!.!.!.!.they died two weeks apart ate ages 101 (him) and 100 (her)!.!.!.!.!.I once asked them how to stay married ( because I was married then and wanted to know) They both told me separately that they slept in two different beds in two separate rooms, she did all the "housework" and he did all the "outside the housework & took care of the car and ranch"!.!.!.!.they saw each other when they watched TV or when they ate meals!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.They were married a very,very long time!. My great uncle told me "ya know!?!.!.!.!.it's alot more trouble and alot more costly to get a divorce when you can just go in your own room and go to sleep or go sit on the tractor or shoot rattle-snakes"!.
I personally think he's right!. I don't think guys develope a real sense of love until they've lost something they didn't know they loved or until it's too late to do something else!.Www@QuestionHome@Com