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Question: Isn't the notion of love dramatized in society to be far more complicated than it actually is!?
I mean, for me, love is fairly simple- it's just a decision based on a number of factors!. For example, I meet a girl, she's caring and understanding, she's pretty good looking (lets say anything above a 7 out of 10), she has a good personality, she has a good sense of humour, she's not too neurotic (as much as that's possible), she has a good pair of child bearing hips, she's a good investment for the future etc!. etc!. Now based on all these factors I decide to love her!. It's as simple as that!. All these feelings of intimacy and passion that people always go on about nowadays follow from factors such as the ones mentioned above!. If society proclaims that the height of human experience lies in the 'mystery' of love and that this is what we should all be searching for, well there are going to be a lot of disappointed people!. Lets all just chill out! Www@QuestionHome@Com
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no one just goes around and picks out a person to love like they would a horse or a dog!. there is a big chemical aspect to it along with a few outside stressers such as timing and availability!. love is not as complicated as some say it is!. it is as complicated as the two people involved!. you have to be open to love but even then sometimes love will find you and knock you on your butt for not believing!. it is apparent that you have never been in real love!. maybe strong like but never real love!. does a parent choose to love a child!? no, a parent is genetically programed to love their child!. anyone who says they do not love their child is lying to themselves or others!. it is the same with romantic love!. we do not choose but it is almost like it is genetically programmed and nothing you can do will ever stop you from loving them at least a little!. this is not complicated!.
i am not pretty by any means, i do not have a nice disposition most of the time, and i can be pretty neurotic at times!. does this mean that no one will ever choose to love me!? not even my parents!? no!. there are people in this world who love me!. their number might be smaller than your idea of a perfect woman might have but they exist and they love me, truely!. and no not even most of them are family!. there is always the other half out there!. so chill and let people have their faith in love!. it does no harm but can do all the world some good to have some faith in the possiblites of love!. Www@QuestionHome@Com
I totally agree with you!. People have been watching too much film and television dramas (i!.e!. The Notebook and Grey's Anatomy)!. Love is actually pretty simple!. The failure rate is so high because people are expecting too much out of it!.
It only takes you to love a person and for that person to love you back!. And once you get to a point where you two think you can buy a house together, raise kids, and plan annual vacations, then you're set!. Don't make it more complicated than it is!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Decide to love her!? It sounds like you're buying a car!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
mmmm !.!.!. looks like ur trying to pick a fight, u don't really value women much do u!? I agree with you though, love is stressed upon waaayyyy too much and ppl are gladly following like stupid sheep!. I would have put it in less misogynistic words, but yeah more or less!. Although I think the intimacy and passion etc!. do exist as a result of all the propaganda!. He's expecting these feelings, she's expecting these feelings too so they both act it out !.!.!. but since it is based on a pretty fictional idea it doesn't last very long and the kids are traumatised for life (if they got married for the sake of movie-love)!.
BUT love does exist in more mature terms of responsibility, sharing, and there is of course an emotional connection just not as strong and fate-defying as it is portrayed!.Www@QuestionHome@Com