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Question: Quality of life question!.!.!.!?
If you give to others, love others, provide support and comfort to others!.!.!.!.but never accept those things in return (including intimacy or romantic relationships) is it still possible to live as a healthy person!? Can you still have a quality life!?
I am a giver by default, and I love so many people!. I care so deeply for the people in my life but I am unable to accept it in return!. I want to date someone who I can love and support but I don't want them to be near me or touch me, or even try to "know" me!.!.!.
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Best Answer - Chosen by Asker:
You can be a healthy person without being intimate with others!. Being healthy is not as good as realizing your potential though!. I think intimacy is something people need to feel like they belong and/or are loved!. In this way, someone who is not intimate with others may be limiting themselves!. 1
Since intimacy is a way people display their affection it may be hard to see how much a person cares for you if they are unable to be intimate with you!. This wouldn't be bad if your attention is needed elsewhere (like a job or kids)!. Although it may affect your quality of life, having romantic relationships with people is not essential!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
maybe you're afraid of actually giving yourself to someone, or surrendering wholly to a situation!. Sure, giving is rewarding, but you have to ask yourself what is holding you back from receiving!?
Maybe something happened in your past that led you to build this wall of defense mechanism!. You have to get to know yourself better to dig deep on what the root issue is!.
Fear of attachment can also be a cause too!.
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Sounds like you have a fear of intimacy, emotional and/or physical!.
No one can be close to you unless you let them!. Would YOU want to be in a relationship with someone like you!?Www@QuestionHome@Com
Best wishes as you are unique!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Yes for it is a matter of will more so than a question of reciprocity!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Don't do this to yourself!.
Love them let them love you!.Www@QuestionHome@Com