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Position:Home>Philosophy> Do you ever get TIRED of people who obsess over trivialities when your world isQuestion: Do you ever get TIRED of people who obsess over trivialities when your world is truly falling apart!? Do you ever yearn to give then some "perspective" and in the long run!.!.!.do you think it would really help!?!?
Bottom line question: Shouldn't we all realize there is ALWAYS someone worse off and STOP feeling sorry for ourselves!?!?Www@QuestionHome@Com Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: The bottom of my existence fell out when my 15 year old daughter died!. It has been 10 years and still hurts!. I've had people say that their cat had died and they knew how I felt!. Same with losing a wife-or gasp-even a parent!. I think that people have different perspectives!. I used to go crazy inside when I heard those comments!. Now I realize that everybody has "issues"!. It is not up to me to judge!. One thing in my corner-nothing phases me now!. My nightmares have come true!. From another angle-I have a friend whose teenage boys died within a year of each other!.!.!.is she worse off then me!? Life is not fair--if it were, I'd be dead! live on!Www@QuestionHome@Com I am very tried with people that obsess over trivialities and those who obsess over the end of the world!. Yes there is always someone, somewhere who is worst off than us and therefore we should not feel sorry for ourselves!. But regardless if someone, somewhere is worst off than us we should always try to have a long term perspective (unless something is happening that requires immediate action) on life!. Most people obsess over the small details of life because they are living just moment to moment without a long range goal!. They wait for the BIG EVENT that will change their life, which seldom shows up!. Sometimes they create a Big Event that pushes their life from obsession with the small to the point of falling apart!. Generally those who obsess on the small are on the same coin as those who are dealing their lives falling apart!. They never find the middle ground of living a purposeful life!. If your world is falling apart more than likely you also still lack a commanding perspective on your own life!.Www@QuestionHome@Com there is always someone who is having a harder time than you but you can't really control how things affect you!. torturing an army captive would physically hurt more than a teen girl breaking up with her boyfriend!. however, i bet the girl sheds more tears than the army captive!. should she stop feeling sorry for herself because she knows that soldiers are being killed and so are innocent people in the terrible wars going on today!? she can try, but eventually all her pain and the grief she has taken on will be too much and she'll have a breakdown which would change her life forever!. I do agree though, that it's hard to hear people complain when you feel like you have a secret pain that you're not talking about because you want to be brave!. My advice would be just to tell someone!. I don't mean that you should complain about everything and anything but the things that really trouble you, need to be confided with somebody!. also, u don't know how much something can affect people, so try not to judge them!. they might be having a very hard time over something you couldn't care less about!.Www@QuestionHome@Com I offer 2 possibilities to you!. 1) When someone's world is falling apart, it may be that another person is simply trying to get that person to think about something else!. 2) Perhaps the other person, for one reason or another, can't deal with the person whose world is in chaos and focuses on something less painful, than seeing a friend who is hurting!. I offer this thought from In scripture, the Psalmist says, "Yes, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death!.!.!." That is a valley that each of us will walk alone!. No one else can walk it for us!. And even those who would walk it with us, can only go part way, for they are not in the valley!. They are on the other side of the mountain where the sun is shinning, and you are in the darkness where the light can't get in!. Still, this is a valley, not a dead end canyon!. And there will come a time when you will leave the valley!. Www@QuestionHome@Com Alternatively, we should feel some sympathy for those who are going through hardships, even if we ourselves are going through worse!. It is always helpful to give attention to others' problems, so I would rather listen to the person who is anxious about something I don't think is that bad and sympathize with them for it than feel annoyance at them because they have concerns when others have worse ones!.Www@QuestionHome@Com Yes, and worse, I work with this woman who is a pathological liar!. She claims to have had a heart attack but could not provide a doctor's statement when asked for one by her boss; she also now says she has cancer but, again, cannot validate it!. We do, however, have a lady who has had open heart surgery AND is now undergoing chemotherapy so the first woman is a bitter pill for the second woman to swallow!.Www@QuestionHome@Com Yes! I think about this EVERY single day! I pay great attention to what is going on in our world, via the news and documentary channels!. I ache for people who I will never meet!. I pray for people in peril as well as for our enemies!. Just the same ---- to stop feeling sorry for myself has been the greatest challenge of my life!. I don't bat an eyelash when it comes to helping others and feeling for others!. I worry about others beyond my own comprehension!. I pray with great faith and hope for others!. When it comes to myself ---- though I pray with conviction ---- my heart and my head wreak of fear, as I know quite clearly that the only reason I am alive, is because I breathe ----how pathetic is THAT !?!?!?!? Believe me ---I DO know! I feel damn sorry for myself and ashamed of myself at the same time!. I hate that I am alive, and I hate that I hate being alive!. It doesn't mean that I'm more tuned in to my own problems or self-loathing ----on the contrary! I care much more for others than I care for or about myself!.!.!.!.!. though people say it is not possible!. I am living proof that it IS quite possible to care MUCH more for others than for myself!. I'm smart enough and extremely self-aware!. I KNOW that feeling sorry for myself is a waste of energy and is pathetically fruitless!. It's a waste of the gifts, talent, compassion, and the very life that was given me!. I'm "above" feeling sorry for myself, yet I feel damn sorry for myself ---and it scares the hell out of me! What's more !.!.!.!.!.there are countless people who have it much worse than I do! I want to save the world -----I feel compelled to make life better for EVERYONE! !.!.!.!.!.!.!.I'm left feeling confused, helpless, angry, anxious, frustrated, extremely determined, extremely overwhelmed!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. suicidal!.!.!.!.!.confused, angry, frustrated, determined, overwhelmed !.!.!.!.!.!.!.rinse and repeat! Let there be peace within -- without!. LAGWww@QuestionHome@Com What you need to understand is that what appears as trivial to you is them expressing their fear that their world is going to pieces to such an extent that even this trivial thing is gone or leaving!. It other words they are expressing a symptom of what they fear is occurring!.Www@QuestionHome@Com No, I get frustrated with myself for obsessing over trivialities when other people's worlds are truly falling apart!.Www@QuestionHome@Com I rail on people who are miserable when they have nothing to complain about, but as for trivia, one man's trivia is another man's bread and butter!.Www@QuestionHome@Com |