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Question: Could it have been love!?
I question something that happened to me about 8 1/2 years ago!. I thought I fell in love with a man almost five years younger than me!. We were both young, I had a boyfriend my own age but this young man made me feel different about everything!. I didn't want my boyfriend anymore, felt like I was going in the wrong direction and wanted to quit my boyfriend even if it met being alone!. I dreamt about the young man from time to time and we talked occasionally; yet, never had a relationship!. I believed that my dreams along with the way I felt about him was a sign that someday we would be together!. Then about 7 years later he called me and told me he was getting married!. I cried I thought that he and I were "destined" for one another!. It hurt, I had to pray for the ability to let go!. He and I met in person he explained to me that he never felt my feelings for him were sincere, needless to say months later he married!. We went our separate ways; but less than a year later we began talking on the phone occasionally and the for the first time ever we slept together!. We never slept together again after that!. Although, it wasn't clear that we wouldn't, I just decided that we shouldn't!. I knew it was wrong and being his mistress wasn't what I wanted and I didn't want him to fall!. Obviously we have (in the past) shared some connection!. Could this have been love!?Www@QuestionHome@Com


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well if you look @ the Definition of love its not exactly to the point because love is a feeling and if you felt that from him all those feelings i mean and he had those for you then yes and he should seek out looking for ways to be With you and trying his chances with youWww@QuestionHome@Com

90% of the time if you offer a male sex he will take it, unless he thinks it will generate negative consequences (which he usually believes he can prevent!.) When he could have had a relationship with you he didn't pursue it!. That pretty much settles that he has no real feelings for you!.

You let yourself be used!. This isn't love it is self-abuse!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

If you cried about it, it sounds like you really cared for this guy not to mention putting this question on yahoo!. It doesn't seem like you are completely over him!. However, it doesn't seem as though he felt the same way if you two haven't had a relationship not to mention him getting married to someone else!. Maybe he was using you, and never felt the same way!. All the same!.!.ouch!.!.Relationships/ love really suck!. Ugh!. Most guys are jerks!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

I think it was true love but i think you were to young to be thinking about true love and it does not make any sence if he was 5 when you meet but 7 years later he is getting marred i mean he would be my age 12 and i do not got to get marredWww@QuestionHome@Com

yes!. If you cry it is love!. If you remember it as good, it is love!. If you can close your eyes and see it, it is love!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Yes, it could be!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

aw:/ idk ive never been in love!. but i have been used!. and it sounds like hes using you!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

!.!.!.no, move on and make a better life for yourself!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com