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Question: Is it ok to spend a life time alone!?
ok, ive figured something out about myself, i love my own space and seem more relaxed with life when im alone, i have had relationships and i must say that at 30 years old, i save more money, do what i want when i want, have no deadlines or promises to keep!. life is good without a relationship but my question is, is it something (life of singlenes) that people will talk about behind my back, will i become a joke in the cantien etc!.Www@QuestionHome@Com


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Sure is!.
I'd much rather do so myself, but sometimes I do crave affection!.

I just say to myself "it's only a temporary pleasurable desire" and then smile, I'd much rather keep my mind then sacrifice my time to someone who would much rather love and be loved!.

Love is all about ownership and comitted sacrifice!.

I'd much rather have friends, no expectations, obligations, or pointless arguments!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

It all comes down to how YOU feel!. What makes you happy!. Most people will answer your question according to how THEY would feel!. There is a huge difference between "alone" and "lonely" but most folks incorrectly presume one must stem from the other!. Whatever makes you feel better is the way to go!. At 30 you are barely middle-aged!. My suggestion is just give it a go and see how you feel!. You can always change your mind!.

As for critics in the workplace, etc- the need for others to gossip about you is highlighting their dissatisfaction/guilt over aspects of their own lives!. But are you more concerned about how they feel or how you feel!?Www@QuestionHome@Com

youre 30 now, so you are enjoying it!. have you thought about life without a wife and children when youre much older!? When youre 70, whose gonna take care of you!? do you really want to live a life of loneliness when youre old!? This is not my opinion, but statistics have shown that older people are more miserable, live shorter lives, and have a higher chance of alzheimers if they dont have people around them!.
i use to think the same way, and i DO like being single!.!.!.but i'm not going to risk it and reach 40 to realize all my friends have way different lives than me and that i will never have a family!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

If you are happy being alone, then it doesn't matter what they say, because you're happy without them!. While being alone isn't a way a lot would choose, it's completely up to the individual!. I don't think you'll become a joke, because personally I don't look at being single as bad!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Do whatever you feel comfortable with doing!. Its true that people tend to be happier when they spend their life with a significant other, but others can happy with the love of their family and friends, that's me!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I figure a smart person like you wouldn't care about criticism !. You seem to know what you want which alrdy makes you ahead of alot of other people in life!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

if you are already worried about what people will think or say you will never make it "alone" you need a certain characteristic and i dont think you have itWww@QuestionHome@Com

lol!.!.!.I dont think it sounds okai!.!.lol but maybe its that ur independent!.!.!.like to do thing on your own and dont depend on anyone which might be the reason why you feel like thatWww@QuestionHome@Com

It is k but it is better to spend your life with someone who you wanna be with Www@QuestionHome@Com

I wish I can have a slice of that haven but sometime's when I'm myself I get lonly then I turn emo real slowlyWww@QuestionHome@Com

its okay!.
its your life, do what you want with it!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

i'm 17 and feel the same way!.!.!.i want to live a lonely life!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

You shouldn't care what other people say so don't think about it! But, you will definetily be a target for people and their opinions!. And, I mean, it's cool if you just wanna wait for now, but I think that you, in the future, will think that you've made a mistake when you have no one standing by your side!. And who are you going to spend the rest of your eternity in Heaven with!? I think that if relationships are the problem for you, maybe you can adopt a child or something!. Things will get too lonely in the future otherwise!. Or get a dog!.!.!. Stop caring so much about money!. I don't really know if you do, but you wrote "I save more money"!.
I can give you an example:
My uncle is now 39 years old!. He stopped being in a relationship with his now ex-girlfriend like last year or something!. And he got together with his current girlfriend, who has a child, age of 9!. He says that they are getting married and they are engaged(swedish kind of engaged, not your kind)!. She is supposed to be pregnant with their child, but she miscarried!. And the funny thing is that he told us like just the year before that he didn't want a child and that he didn't want to get married!. My theory is that if he still thought that way, he and his current girlfriend wouldn't be together!.!.!. But it's totally up to YOU!
P!.S!. Be careful not to rush into something that you don't want! D!.S!.Www@QuestionHome@Com