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Question: Dishonoring a Guest (What Would You Do)!?
I was at my friend's house Nancee and I had brought her over homemade dinner for her and her sister!. As I sat down, she told me to look around and see how their place was a work in progress--there were sheets everwhere on the furniture and the place was messy!.
I did not say a word, because I was there for my friend not to comment how she lived!.
Then she repeats "it's a work in progress!." I told her I never said anything!. Then she yells at me: "If you don't like it then get out now!!!"
Is she sick or mental!?
After bringing her dinner, I felt like taking it back and walking out, but letting it slide by, but in my heart I know she meant it!.
I stayed the course of the evening but felt really uncomfortable and bad!. What would you really have done or said!?
HONESTY PLEASE!.
NOTE: I mean if someone was bringing you food, why dishonor the guest, or was she ungreatful!?Www@QuestionHome@Com
Best Answer - Chosen by Asker:
She must be very paranoid by what people think of her!. I think you should just talk to her how she overreacted over nothing really!. Talk it out slowly adn settle your problems!. If this continues, I wouldn't really call that a true friend!.
If I were you, I would have just yelled back at her and walk out of there!. ^^ Hehe, but I'm a very temperamental person!. Www@QuestionHome@Com
Seems like she overreacted!. But anytime anyone ever says anything to be about their house being messy I always say something like "This is nothin', you should see my house!." This is usually true, but even if it's not I sometimes say it to make them feel better!. Or just say man I don't ******' care what your house is like I'm just stoppin' by to hang out not movin' in!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
I think she is disturbed by lot of problem and she needs caring !. Try not to make her angry do wat ever she says ,tell wat ever she asks!.
But there is limit for all and everything ,if u feel to leave her if ur choice but i suggest u not to leave her as friends are needed at difficult time and i think she is badly in need of a friend !.
Talk to her try to get wat is in her mind if any problem give her good support!.Dont worry she does go on help her
GOD BLESS UWww@QuestionHome@Com
It is possible that she honestly wanted your opinion!. And while many people say that it is better to say nothing then say something rude, I personally believe that the best thing one can do is to tell the truth!. We don't get better by living a lie!. And hey maybe she'll let you help her fix it!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
She could tell by your body language that you were uncomfortable with her residence's condition!. And that was just as powerful as saying it to her face, so she lashed out in defense!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
well this works both ways hun!.
if you JUST brought her dinner
and didn't make any face of appeal towars her place
or liek make a snotty remark!.!.
she wouldnt' have said anything!.
your story doesn't add up at all!.
not here's how i think it went!.!.!.
She invites you over her house/ or you went over on your ownn
to "bring her dinner"
and see her place to compare/ judge her
and when you saw it
you made a face or a noise like ew!.!.
then she had yelled at you!.
see this story makes more sense doesn't it!?!?
it was nice of you to bring dinner for them, maybe they are stuggling, however i think the intentions weren't totally there!.
it's hard times and she may not have much or be jelous of others!. liek you are donating to "chiairity"
i would of said i'm srry and left her to eat the dinner!.
and just say you had to go do something!.!.!.
end of problem!.Www@QuestionHome@Com