How do you become confident no matter what the obstacle?

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Ok so here is the situation!. I have been for the last few days doing well in rebuilding my confidence after a situation at work!. I realized I was believing what people where saying about me, even if it was bad!. I really decided to love myself no matter what people said or even thought about me, because most of the time it was a miss understanding!. So the last couple days have been really awesome!. I have been getting alot of attention from men ( I only get attention when Im dressed up)!. But I felt incredible like i was on top of the world!. So any way I just started my period yesterday and I can't get that feeling back no matter what I try to do!. So does any one out there have any advice on regaining confidence!?

also: im 22
I do get attention but ive always had low self esteem about my looks because im dark skin and used to get made fun of pretty bad!.
Now people tell me im pretty and that i look like a model but I dont care about that!. I really dont want to be caught up on looks, just pure Confidence, so please dont tell me to dress up that doesn't work for me!. Thanks!Www@QuestionHome@Com

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Girl is probably your period my mind wonders off to when mines on!. just keep doing what you have been doing, and so what you're dark there are a lot of beautiful dark skin women!. not only that your skin will not be crackling anytime soon, another thing you could have gotten a high from all that love you been giving yourself, and now coming down!. I did not hear you mention God in your statement, where does he play a role in your life!? self esteem starts with knowing how God feels about you, as well as yourself, and we all have bad days regardless, so try and wing it out!. Because when David in the Bible didn't hear from the Lord he inspired himself unto the Lord!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

how i over come obstacles,(i find it simple) i think about the things ive done in the past, that i need alot of courage to say, or do!.

i think to myself, if i did it once why not do it again, if i didn't do it then why not now, while i still can, i just throw questions at myself, and see how tough i am , and thats how my confidince builds Www@QuestionHome@Com

Confidence doesn't come from without but from within and your smart enough to know that!. At work train to know your position well!.Show initiative and try to not to compete with you coworkers be part of the team!.Just from you question it shows you care about yourself, so don't worry about how others perceive you!. Project confidence and othes will see that in you!. Trust yourself!Www@QuestionHome@Com

It's really probably just hormones!.

I am normally pretty at-ease with most things, but when I get my period I feel so defective and vulnerable for like no reason at all!. I feel completely back to being myself though when its done!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Well, one way of getting confidence back is to help others!. When you focus your enery on being of service to other people, you then stop focusing on yourself!. A selfless attitude goes a long way!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

SOunds like hormones!.!.!.completely normal!. Maybe talk to a doc about perscribing a low dose anti depressent has work for the women in my fam!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Mya you have to understand, the people who made jokes upon you had the lowest of all self esteem!. This is coming from someone who picked on the "geeks" in junior high!. I was picked on a lot as a kid, and I mean badly, my mind later took that and transferred into the thought of "no one is your friend, be mean before they are" And for eight years (until I was fifteen) it controlled me!. Now I have taken medication for it, took therapy, read a lot more and Im the complete oppisite!. I have forgotten about my early childhood and I look at it as a boost of confidence, that I came out from that!. I have a lot bettet understanding of opinions and just about anything now!. I learned a few years back the kids who totured the living hell out of me are now high school drop outs who smoked crack all day!.!.!.I do hope they get better, but why waste time on them!? Live your life, don't worry about how you look or what people say, if you give more than you recieve, well in the end you find out you recieved much more than you gave!.Www@QuestionHome@Com