Does mourning make us outcasts or bond us together ?

Question: Does mourning make us outcasts or bond us together !?

For his mourners will be outcast men, and outcasts always mourn!.

Oscar Wilde
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Depends what the occasion is!. If your mourning for something that's not "popular" you will be outcast!. But if your mourning for something deemed a "great tragedy" and everyone is mourning than you are bonded!. Life is mainly a popularity contest in these ways!. I thought the popularity contest would end in high school, I guess I was wrong!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

A shoulder to cry on is comforting, but does not lessen the pain of the loss!. Mourning is a solitary experience that can not be shared!. You are truly alone!. No one can experience your feelings, words are inadequate to describe them, no one can make that pain go away!. You can find some comfort in the shared misery of others that can substitute and somehow feel like the loss shared is the replacement for the loss, but it isnt!. Best case, new friendships among the outcast!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I agree with a previous poster, if what you are mourning is significant then it is a bonding time!. For example, I remember around 9/11 our country really came together, we were one, if only for a short time!. Most people supported the war efforts and everyone felt somehow connected in their mourning!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I lost my husband!. For a while my friends where there!. After a while not so much, mostly because they just don't know what to say & being around me makes them uncomfortable!. So I would have to say outcast!.Www@QuestionHome@Com