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Question: How can i give without counting!?
if you can could you help me to identify which part of my thinking could be repsonsible for counting and expecting when i give!?

i always seem to remember whenever i give something or do something for somebody, how can i give without remembering!? or counting!?

i guess its kind of a selfish reason too, coz i found out from my experience that by counting and remembering i hurt myself and the relationship!.!.!. so its for the benefit of me and the relationship, and the other person too (kinda)

my sister and my mum basically give without counting and i asked them and they said just give so much you cant remember!. lol is that the way to go!?

im stil abit noob at self diagnostic stuffs!.

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Best Answer - Chosen by Asker:
I can only speak from my point of view & how it works for me!.

I give because I want to (choose to), for two reasons; first, it makes the recipient of the act happy (often it surprises them, sometimes they are incredulous --- which is even better); second, it makes me feel good on a personal level!. That reward is usually better than anything anyone else can give you!.!.!.other than love!.

I learned long ago not to have any expectations of life or anyone!.!.!.I found that I was disappointed 99!.9% of the time!. The only person I have any right to have any expectations of, is myself!.

Life isn't a competition or about keeping score; other than with yourself, that's tough!. Try keeping score on yourself sometime, you're likely to find that if you score what you do to others as if they had done the same things to you, you'll end up disappointed with yourself!. But, it might also force you to treat other people differently!. Doing things because you want to, because you choose to, selflessly, without expecting a reward, will give you a new perspective on yourself and people in general!. You don't have to be an idiot about it and go hog wild, just quietly go about your giving, be selective !.!.!.almost like a ninja!.!.!.see how many people notice you!.

You don't have to give / lend people money, that road leads to contempt for those that don't pay you back!. Give your time, just offer to help, start with family, then add friends, then add strangers!. If you do (give) one nice thing (act) to one person each day, you may find you like it!.!.!.it's almost addictive!.

So much for that rant!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

If you are giving alms or for charity, give them as per your standard and level of income!. If you are sharing with close relatives share equally!.

This is only with respect to material offerings!.

If you want to give (smile) happiness, peace, knowledge, hope, courage, etc!. you can given in abundance!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Good to start learning to give!. However, you have never given, you just hand something out to someone with hidden condition in mind!. That's nothing wrong, for you don't have yet universal mind to give!.

And, you have to think while you think you give!. Because, you were promoted to do fake giving, or trivial giving - no meaning to life!.

This is practically giving that makes sense, http://macsoft!.gaia!.comWww@QuestionHome@Com

I agree with "specialone" and "no real help"!. Bottom line is: to give without counting means give material stuff and psychological stuff (ex!.smiles, time, effort, talent, etc!.) without expecting in return!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Neither a lender nor a borrower be!. Quote from William Shakespeare!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I believe what you are trying to say is your trying to give without expectations in return, which is awesome; but first you must have this to give and when you do only give that which you have, like if you only have $10!.00 but we know you are a millionaire smile, only give that which you don't have to worry about getting back, in other words try not to loan money give it!. I know sometimes this can seem like a impossible task but try not to, because you can loose friends and family for these reason!. also don't expect the same people to give to you because of your need when the times comes, if they can't or will not give to you, pray for there soul!. Depend and trust on God to give you what you need; in your time of need!. Your Father in Heaven knows your needs!. When you do your giving do it in secrecy, don't brag about it or tell anyone, therefore your Father in Heaven will reward you openly!. Any one that doesn't follow this the Bible say's has already gotten there reward and are like the wicked Pharisee's, in the Bible!.Www@QuestionHome@Com