It seems that of every activity there is order necessarily insofar that the activity wishes to reach it's aim!. For instance, in football one person passes, while others move towards areas where they can potentially catch a pass!. Still, others defend!. All this requires an ordering of the activity, in football, (the play) so as to advance the ball down the field and eventually score!. With music, musicians in a band play different instruments with different sounds but using order bring those sound together to produce a harmonious and also unique sound!. This, though, is used to evoke joy and pleasure in those who listen!. So, it seems that of every activity that wishes to reach it's desired aim (like in football the activity moves towards victory, music towards producing joy and pleasure in those who listen, etc!.) yet all these, if they wish to reach their aim, must have order!. Now, if we can agree on this, then sex, being an activity, will require proper order so as to reach it's aim (like with music, the sound produced is ordered with the other sounds so as to produce a harmony; and, harmony is produced so as to produce joy and pleasure in the listeners)!. If this follows, then my question is what is the specific kind of order of the activity of sex that is necessary for it to reach it's desired goal!. Surely, we have experienced or know of those who have experienced sex that was gross, dissatisfying and regretful!. But, these, obviously are not the aim of sex as an activity (and activity is used broadly so don't confuse it with moder use of the word: "Action for fun" like crafts; although, because I'm using it broadly I would hold crafts to be an activity)!. So, maybe, this order wasn't intrinsic in the act so that it was unable to reach the end of the act or goal!. Again, what is the order found in sex (like with music which brings all the sound produced by each particular instrument together in order to make harmony which in turn is used to produce joy and pleasure in the listeners)!?Www@QuestionHome@Com