Can you associate compassion with vanity?

Question: Can you associate compassion with vanity!?
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yes!. you see as bad as it may sound I believe compassion is always a type of vanity!.!.!. because it has a dual nature!.!.!. firstly it is indeed a sympathetic approach to someone's pain or sufferings, but it's also an eternal reminder of the very pain which caused it!.

in short, whenever you feel compassion for someone, not only you make them remember their pain once more, but it's also a way to prove you're superior to them, as your compassion is an effect of their failure!. that's very close to vanity, if I may say!.!.!. you become the mirror in which they see their flaws!.!.!. and that's something very difficult for them to deal with, it doesn't make the subject of compassion feel strong enough to fight their own battles, but to seek help to you!.!.!.

that's why I always oppose unconditional love to compassion!. it's always more rewarding!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

It's a big stretch!. But in Joe Haldemann's sci-fi book "Forever Peace", soldiers who were "jacked into" robots via cybernetics were also jacked into each others' bodies as a side effect, so that a unit of five guys and five gals would all experience each others' bodily sensations!. A guy could know what menstruating feels like! The side effect of this was that they stopped wanting to kill, losing all instincts of being a soldier, because they had developed EMPATHY, from experiencing other people from the inside out!.
But normally, compassion expresses outwardly, while vanity expresses inwardly!. No real association!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Certainly!. In the complex social relationships we humans have, it makes no (biological) sense at all to feel compassion yet not be rewarded for it by those around us!. It also makes sense to be rewarded for compassion you don't have!. This leads to manipulations of how others judge our personalities!.

To be seen as compassionate is probably of more value (to the individial) than actually feeling compassion itself!. So vanity -- an interest or obsession with how others percieve you -- does extend to compassion!. A good example of this would be all politicians, who fake sympathy to popular causes get more votes!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

interesting!.!.!.

i think in some sense you can!. as another contributor already pointed out compassion is expressed outwardly!. but if we express it inwardly are we not then vain!. understanding without judgement our own desires!?

Think not, when woman's transient breath is fled, That all her vanities at once are dead; Succeeding vanities she still regards!. --PopeWww@QuestionHome@Com

I can! Here goes:
" I feel so sorry (compassion) for those who are so shallow that their whole life is wrapped around themselves and how the look and sound, and what they have!." (vanity) They will never attain anything in life that truly has value!. (compassion)Www@QuestionHome@Com

True compassion can never be vanity!.

Fake compassion is definitely vanity because the thought behind is "Thank God, I am not in their position, I am soooo lucky, let us show now some kindness to that poor person " This is vanity!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

yes, good question!.
researched showed that vain people are likely to be benevolent!. remember the saying goes:

"before you can love others you must first learn to love yourself!."

edit: well said MantridWww@QuestionHome@Com

Yes my vanity makes me think about my compassion because if I take too long fixing my hair it is sad to make everyone wait too long!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

no-they r oposite factualy and identical superficialyWww@QuestionHome@Com

I can`t see how the two would be associated!.!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I'd say everyone has a bit of both!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

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