How can I find my birth parents?

Question: How can I find my birth parents!?

I was adopted when I was a baby and would like to call my real parents!. Im 17 and I dont want my mom to know because im afraid she will get angry and be sad ya know!? I want to know where to start, I can get there names easily from my birth certificate!. Please helpWww@QuestionHome@Com

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I was also adopted and my birth mother handed me over to my adoptive mother, when I was old enough mum told me that I was adopted and the whole story, but she had burnt my original birth certificate in case I found it, I was told her name and a bit about her but when I applied for my full birth certificate they gave me one with gaping holes in it and only my adoptive parents names, apparently here in australia you have to go to social services explain why you want to contact your birth mother like illness etc!., my mum had no problems with me wanting to look but I was the one who was uninterested in finding her, the mum who raised me is my mother in every sense of the word and even though both my parents have passed on I still have not looked for her, but thats just my personal decision!. Don't be afraid of asking your adoptive parents, they all know that one day you will ask questions and are more than likely prepared for the day that you do ask, just because you want to know where you really came from does not mean that you love your parents any less and they know that, so go ahead and ask, goodluck to you! :)Www@QuestionHome@Com

The place to start is actually the adoption agency that you came through!. Likely, you'll need to wait until you are 18, but many adoptions carry a clause where information can be released when you are 18 if you and your birth parents permitt it!. I would also be careful who you decide are your "real" parents!. Remember that the people who gave you up are likely not still together and may not have had the easiest lives!. There's a good chance that they won't be in contact with each other!. They also have very likely started families of their own, now and it might be uncomfortable or sad for you to see that!.

I'm not saying that you shouldn't look for them, just that many times it doesn't turn out to have the fairy tail ending that people hope for!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

You should have told us which country you live in and which country your birth parents are in!. The laws relating to this vary from country to country and state to state in some countries!.

As Barbara B said it is quite simple in Australia!. You put your name forward when you are 18 years old and if your birth parents wish to have a meeting with you then you can meet them!. The state government department handling this in New South Wales where I live - Community Services and Social Security - will be only too pleased to help you reconnect if you want too and so do the natural parents!. The wish has to be mutual!.

I would encourage you to discuss this with your adoptive parents!. There is something seriously wrong if they cannot accept that one day you would want to meet your natural parents!. There shouldn't be a need to get a private detective!. Anyway how would you pay for one at 17 year of age!.

also if you were adopted from an adoption agency in Asia which I doubt that you were or in the case of the USA one in Latin America then you will have to ask your adoptive parents to give you information about going into the foreign country of origin in order to gain access to your natural parents!. this is more complex as a lot of people do not want to reconnect unless constant contact has been kept up over the years!. Some adoptive parents do make a contribution to the wellbeing of the village or community that their adoptive child has come from in the case of Australian parents adopting from China and other Asian countries!.

Some sites with adoption information
http://www!.adoptingback!.com/
http://www!.vanish!.org!.au/!?q=node/6
The Australian Government on Adoption of Children from Overseas
http://www!.aph!.gov!.au/Hansard/reps/commt!.!.!.
The Experience of Adoptive Patents When Reunions Occur - one for your adoptive Mum & Dad research done by Curtin University
http://espace!.lis!.curtin!.edu!.au/archive/!.!.!.
Impact of loss on an adopted child
http://www!.childsafety!.qld!.gov!.au/adopti!.!.!.
Kids Topics - Adoption
http://www!.stepfamily!.asn!.au/content/blo!.!.!.
How to search for your natural parents or child in South Australia - this is pretty similar in most states of OZ!.
http://www!.ocba!.sa!.gov!.au/bdm/applying/a!.!.!.
Free people search with online message boards
http://www!.ozpeopletrace!.com!.au/messageb!.!.!.
The effects on the adopting parents of losing a child through adoption
http://users!.chariot!.net!.au/~jamiro/arms!.!.!.

I hope that this information is of help to you even if you don't live in Australia it may make interesting reading!.

Good Luck!!!Www@QuestionHome@Com

it is quiet simple in australia i don't know if it is the same in america,but if you have your birth parents names why don't you give them a ring ,look up there number in the phone book make sure yu are speaking to the right person and gently tell them who you are and see what kind of res ponce you get and take it from there!.do you know of any department they may have in america just to check and see if your birth mum has a vito on her name!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Talk with your parents!. They will be very hurt if you go behind their backs with such a delicate decision!. also you might be surprised at the help they will give you!. your birth certificate will be the best starting point!. there are agencies who will be able to help!.
good luck don't forget you might be very disappointed with the result!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

http://au!.tv!.yahoo!.com/b/find-my-family/

try this, click on the 'are you trying to find your family' and fill in the form you must fill in all the things with a * but if you don't know something you can just type 'unknown'!.

Don't be put off by the fact its a t!.v show they help loads of people find there families but only 2 or 3 people get chosen to go on the show so the chances are they won't even ask you, and if they do there not going to force you,

good luck and i hope you find your family

p!.s i am 99% sure it is free

JessxxWww@QuestionHome@Com

you could try a show like can we help or find my family (http://au!.tv!.yahoo!.com/b/find-my-family/!.!.!. or any other similar show!. if you don't want your mum to know then maybe you could search for websites that may help you out!. it may be a good idea though if you do talk to your mum as she may know something or will help!. you could explain the situation and why you want to find your birth parents!. good luck!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Why don't you explain to your not real parents how you want to see you real parents if she loves you she wont mind that you want to meet you blood family!. I know your worried she will get sad or angry but as i said if she loves you she will understand!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

On the television they often mention that www!.ozreunion!.com!.au has helped many people to seek for their unknown relatives!. I know the owners of the website and they are very nice people and will try their best to find your loved one!. I hope this helps somehow and good luck!Www@QuestionHome@Com

hi if you live in australia contact channel seven they run a tv show whick will help you also your mum you have now will understand sit her down and tell her you need to no what your real parents are like she would no that one day it will come to thisWww@QuestionHome@Com

if u can find out there names then great you can find useful sites on google>but the question really is why, did they want you adopted if there was a really good reason for it then i would re think trying to find them PersonalWww@QuestionHome@Com

do you know any relatives!? how bou where they lived!? Don't you have full right over tht!.!.!. to find out who ur parents are!? you can hire someone!. and if you know where they live search their name in the country's databaseWww@QuestionHome@Com

You might not like what you find!. But www!.whitepages!.com
should get you started!. If they are unlisted then contact
a Private investigator!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Just go to the National Statistic office and submit the names of person whom you are looking for!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

FacebookWww@QuestionHome@Com

ASK the manager or seceratery of the orphanage which u were adopted from, thy have a big list!.And u must pray!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

i dont really kno in australia we have a show called find my family not sure if you have somthing similar but goodluck!! =)Www@QuestionHome@Com

go to Australian Electoral Roll Commission and do a search thru Electoral Rolls!.
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You tell meWww@QuestionHome@Com

Go to your local library or just go on google for a way to find out!. Or type in your birth parent's name to find outWww@QuestionHome@Com

take a DNA testWww@QuestionHome@Com

try JIGSAW they do itWww@QuestionHome@Com

ask around, it works 19!.87% of the timeWww@QuestionHome@Com

hire a pi!?Www@QuestionHome@Com

you can ring/e-mail/send a letter to the show find my familyWww@QuestionHome@Com

hire a private investigator or something
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btw:i watch alot of law and order:)Www@QuestionHome@Com

DON T FIND THEM !.IF THEY LEAVE YOU WHY YOU WANT TO FIND THEM!?Www@QuestionHome@Com

Try this, and good luck! :)Www@QuestionHome@Com

have u ever herd of the show find my family its a great show visit their website they r very helpfulWww@QuestionHome@Com