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Question: Is this girl my relative!?
ok i think im prob in the wrong place but 2 years ago my family had a call out of the blue from a girl aged 23 saying that she was a long lost sister of my mum and aunt (my grandad it seems had an affair with his Nigerian maid) everything seems to add up as he was away at the time the girl was concieved and born however as my grandad has passed away and he is the only one with the answers
i dont know where to turn or where i can obtain her birth certificate or something to prove my grandad is the father!.
The girl still hasnt sent any documents over after a lot of promises so this is stopping my family welcoming her as our own obviously being Nigerian you hear of these scams so we are all on tenterhooks but feel there is def truth in the matter!.
Thank you for any advice you can provide
Gemma Www@QuestionHome@Com
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I would treat this with a great deal of suspicion, Gemma!. Unfortunately Nigeria is the source of a great many scams, some of them very original!. I have heard of some of the scammer's using genealogy sites to ingratiate themselves with their victims by matching data up!. If you are dead set on exploring the possibility I would be asking her for all possible information!. e!.g place of conception, how they met etc etc!.
You didn't mention as to where the affair may have happened!. If it was out of his native country perhaps you may be able to check his passport to see if he was in the specified location at the time!.
I would be wary of accepting any documentation such as birth certificates that she may provide as the scammers are very good at creating these things!.
Of course if she starts to ask for money to "assist" her to prove herself then I would definitely run a mile!.
Then I would be asking her if she would be prepared to submit to a DNA test!. A comparison between your mother and her would soon show if they had a common paternity!. Www@QuestionHome@Com
If she was born 23 years ago, she'll definitely have some paperwork, even in Nigeria! If she's really sure she's a relative, she should be able to supply some documentary evidence to support her assertion!. Sounds to me like she's trying to either scam you, or fraudulently get British citizenship, so I'd be extremely wary of her!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
A D!.N!.A!. test don on her and your self will tell you she is a sibling!.Having the same father you will both have the same markers!.If you send her a cit she cant fake it!.If there is nothing for her to gain but you as a sibling just except her and do the test later!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
You will have to hunt for it but it is possible to buy a cheap genetic testing kit!.Send it to her with a pleasant covering letter and match the results with a similar test done with a blood relative of your grandfatherWww@QuestionHome@Com
I would be so careful!. This is almost certainly a scam, although no-one ever wishes to believe it!. Just type in Google and the words Nigeria, scam, long lost sister etc!.!.!. Www@QuestionHome@Com
dna is your answerWww@QuestionHome@Com
What an awful situation to be in!. This happened to me, my dad was serving in egypt!. The "sister" was born and I met her 50 years later!. I cant prove or disprove if she is my sister as my dad died!. Fortunately I spoke to her mum, who had her adopted!. She had nothing to gain by claiming to be my sister so I welcomed her to the family!. I Cant say I have family feeling for her but I do feel sorry for her!. Anyway with your situation the only way to find out for sure is a DNA test!. If you cant afford one perhaps you could try one of these chat shows that will help!. Besta luck what you do!. These men have a lot to answer for!.lol!.xWww@QuestionHome@Com
a birth certificate may not provide the documentation you want!. different countries have different laws concerning naming fathers when the parents aren't married!. So it's possible that he may not even be named!.
one way your family can be sure is to do a dna test of your mom and aunt and this woman!. DNA will tell you if she shares a parent with your mom and aunt!. Of course this would only work if your mom and aunt are their father's bio children!. I am assuming that they are!.
Until this woman is willing to provide proof then your family has no obligation or reason to welcome her into their lives!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Scam!. It's a scam!. No doubt about it - it's a scam!.
Get her to fax over copies of her birth certificate, and any other paperwork - don't pay for copies - she's the one with the claim - she can pay!. If they all look genuine - then she can pay for a DNA test to prove her links to your family!.
But it won't get that far - she'll ask you for money to clear up some legal stuff in Nigeria - about ￡20,000 would be about right!.
I would contact this website & ask for their advice - they bait the scammers!.
http://www!.419eater!.com/Www@QuestionHome@Com