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i would like to learn to dance but I'm a shy person and i wont even dance in front of my mom even though she has tried a lot to get me to dance but I'm just to afraid to dance and i cant solve the problem so pleas help me Www@QuestionHome@Com


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Looks like you have a little bit of social phobia!.!.!.!.but a much more specific phobia also!.!.!.you have a morbid dread of dancing!.

The way to deal with this is very gradually exposing yourself to this fear by actually facing this fear, but only gradually!. Avoid flooding (e!.g!., dancing solo in front of a crowded ballroom floor)---it will worsen your situation!.

Try this method of dealing with this fear of dancing!.!.!.this is called desensitization!. This fear-relieving technique had been used by psychologists for people who have specific phobias!.!.!.!.like spiders, guns, death, the no!. 13, etc!. For instance, a desensitization technique for a person who is afraid of thunder may include!.!.!.

1!. Hearing thunder on audio tape!.
2!. Then, watching thunder and lightning on TV!.
3!. Next, go down to a windowless room when thunder is nearby!.
4!. Once this is mastered, a person can watch a thunderstorm in
front of the window!.!.!.!.!.staying even after big crashes of thunder!.!.!.!.and not moving to a windowless room!.

Sort of something like that!.

Ditto to that for your fear of dancing!. Here is something just for you to desensitize yourself from the fear of dancing!.

1!. Watch people ballroom dance or ballet dance on TV!.
2!. Then, when the situation allows, do no!. 1, but try to imitate this dancing you see on TV!.
3!. Then, go to see a live dance event!.!.!.preferably ballet dance or ballroom dance!.!.!.but don't go near the floor or stage!. Watch the live event from the back row or way in the back!.
4!. After you succeed on no!. 3, do the same thing for no!. 3 but get close to the live dance action!.
5!. After you succeed on no!. 4, go to a social dance, and dance with a male partner!. Don't dance alone yet!. And pick an easy dance that you won't collide, like the salsa!.
6!. Once that is done, and you are confident, go to another social dance, dance with the same partner, and pick a more dangerous social dance where there is high risk of hitting another couple, such as the quickstep or waltz!.!.!.this is probably your ultimate fear!.!.!.fear of getting hit on the dance floor!.
7!. Finally, once you mastered no!. 6, sign up to compete with your partner in a dance competition, or sign up to dance on stage for some solo dance recital, preferably ballet!. This will be the last step!. If you master this step and avoid stage fright until your last bow, you will have mastered your fear of dancing!.

Take my advice and I hope all of this works!.!.!.!.!.and good luck, lady!.!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Practice in front of the mirror alone!.

Get a favorite song and go with the feel of the music!.

Learn the two-step and then wave and swerve your body to the beat, with this simple dance step!.

Practicing with your mother could actually be a good start, then embellish to include your personality and rhythm!.

Learning to dance may actually help your shyness!. Getting to know the opposite sex afterall can start with a dance!.

Go for it! Have fun! Study the history of dance and embrace it!

Good luck!

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To tell you the truth, if you go on youtube and look up ballet, or any other type of dance moves, you can find helpful videos!. That would be a good way!. also, maybe take a private lesson!. Its only you and the teacher who works with hundreds of students daily on all different levels!. Video tape yourself and see what you need to work on more after the lesson!. Don't be shy, either, (even thought I used to be extremely shy!.!.!.) because you eill never get noticed in dancing, or in life!. Dance on front of more people and never stop trying!. Good luck!! Www@QuestionHome@Com

Take dance lessons!! Open up to the people in your class!! That's what I did and I'm cured of my shyness!! Don't be afraid!.!. take a chance! If you wanted, you could just get some private lessons with a teacher for a while!. You could get the hang of things and then go join the others in class!. When I take dance I can be a complete retard and no one cares! haha :) just take a chance!.!. you'll love it! Unless you wanna do ballet, then you'll need to be more serious, but besides that just have fun! :DWww@QuestionHome@Com

I have never heard of girl who couldn't dance!. Try by yourself, in front of a mirror, or have one of your best friends practice with you, it might be fun!. Good luck there!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

maybe you should take dance lessons!? or try to be confident!

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Some people are just not meant to dance!. That's not your talent so don't stress over it and focus on more important things like finding your actual talent or talents!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Try taking a private class first then branch out!. I was exactly likee you are VERY shy!. Just keep trying anddon'tt give upWww@QuestionHome@Com

try taking a class!.Www@QuestionHome@Com