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Question: Everything I need to know to be a successful Exotic Dancer!?
I've already decided its what I'm going to do, I don't need anyone trying to talk me out of it, insulting the women who do it, or talking like they know about the business when they've never stepped foot in a club!.

So, anyone with real experience (been a dancer *for more than a couple weeks* or worked at a club) I would love to know the details!. I've already done some research and know about the behind the scenes sex and drug use, drinking and so on!. I don't want to hear about it!. I'd like to know all the little things, like how long you're usually on stage, how much is on a pole, the best ways to get men to tip you and ask for lap dances, interacting with the other dancers, V!.I!.P!. rooms, how much money I could expect to make on average, and anything else you can think of!.

Again, NO HATERS! I'm doing it, if you don't like it, get over it!Www@QuestionHome@Com


Best Answer - Chosen by Asker:
1!. Visit couple of strip clubs before you pick one!. Go to auditions to different clubs, feel the stage and pick the one where you feel most comfortable!.

2!. Never sit in the dressing room with other dancers, you are there to make money!. Some days are really bad and you can't make much money, don't give up, keep hustling, don't take it personaly if a man refuses to go for a lap dance with you and then he picks another girl!. Have tough skin, never show if you are upset, some girls are nasty, they might talk bad about you to the customers (especially if you're new and make more money) so don't get into any kind of confrontation!. Just be nice to everybody or ignore them if they start drama!.

3!. Girls can steal!. If there's a locker, lock your stuff in or if you have a bigger bag/small suitcase, get a lock on it!. NEVER leave money in your dressing room, buy yourself a cheap small evening bag to carry around everywhere all night so you can put all the tip money in it!.

4!. Don't use any glitter on your body!. It comes off so easy and though it might look cute, guys may have gfs or wives and would rather pick a girl that will not leave a trace of his naughty adventures on his shirt or pants!.

5!. Always carry tampons, baby wipes, band aids, deodorant!. Better use body spray, not perfume!. If you have a free minute, just wash yourself in a bathroom, it's always good to be clean!.

6!. Before going on a stage make sure you wipe your shoes soles with rubbing alcohol (usually it's in abundance in every strip club) and make sure you don't have anything stuck on the soles, had that happen to me and I slipped!. Talking about being embarrassed!

7!. Don't be a mean hustler!. Some guys just need smbd to be nice to them!. Never start conversation with 'baby, want a lap dance!?'!. Always make a nice short talk!. Then when you ask if he wants s dance and he refuses, move on but be nice about it, say "it was really nice to talk to you, I wish I could stay and just talk to you all night but I have to work and make money"!. In most cases if he sees you going for a dance with smbd else, he will ask you for a dance later!. It's better to tell them you are single, most men are not idiots, they know you do it for money, but acting interested and being an available woman plays into their fantasies!. Be nice, flirty and respectful to them, don't treat them like obvious customers!. a little kindness goes a long way!.

8!. Never promiss them something that is against club rules just to get them into a private room!. It's never worth it though a lot of girls do that (for ex, tell guy they could get away with touching you very quick)

9!. Club rules differer for state to state so I can't tell you much here!. I never worked nude, only topless and bikini!. Guys are not allowed to touch (it's ok smt to give a hug, touch hand or back), feel free to call a bouncer if you feel offended!.

10!. There is usually a regular lap dance that lasts 1 song (25-30$ where I worked) and champagne rooms that lasts 30 minutes (175-200)!. Part of the dance/champagne room goes to management!. Some clubs give you cash right before/after the dance, some clubs have cards that count your dances and you cash out at the end of your shift!.

11!. There is usually a house fee!. How much depends on the club, manager will tell you about it!.

12!. You usually tip DJ at the end of the shift!. Where I worked they told us it's 10% of what you made and not less tht 10$!. You don't have to give them too much, nobody knows how much you really made but don't be cheap, having a DJ and good music on your side is alwasy a plus!. Where I worked we had to tip a bouncer a dollar a lap dance and 5 dollars a champagne room!.

13!.How much you will make depends on the location, on whether it's topless/nude/bikini, whether it sells alcohol or not, etc!. BUT always be confident, you don't have to do many pole tri*cks, the key is being sensual, move slowly, have eye contact, be flirty and interact with the audience!. Watch the way the girls move and practice before closing!. Never act bored, upset, angry on stage!. Even if you don't make money (just consider it a good work out), men see you're bored and will not want to have anything to do with you, they come there to forget about their problems and have fun, they don't need any drama!.

14!. Some men are coming to strip clubs just for company!. Be very observant, some men can tip you good money for just sitting and listening to their miserable lives!. Such men can become good regular customers!.

15!. I worked in Atlantic City, NJ and I made as low as 100 and as much as 1500 a night (6 hr shift)!. If you are going to work in a big city you'll probably make more!.

16!. Never meet with a customer outside the club!. Never even promiss him to do it (he can always turn out to be a stalker or undercover cop)!. Where i worked undercover cops used to come asking for drugs and private parties!. Couple of girls were arrested!.

17!. Dancers go on the stage in rotation!. BE AWARE of your rotation, make sure when they call your name, you are right there ready to perform!. Where I worked a lap dance wouldn't excuse you for skipping rotation but champagne room would!.

18!. Never talk bad about dancers to the customers!. They usually don't like it and it can always come back to you, you don't want any stripper drama!.

19!. If your club allows double dances (2 girls for 1 guy), use it to your advantage: the guys who don't want regular dances, sometimes go for doubles!

20!. If a customer sits with a girl, never come up to them!. It's going to cause you a lot of drama, not worth it!.

21!. Usually have at leat 3-4 outfits with you!. But special exotic dancer outfits rather than just lingerie!. Be creatinve with it, get something that can glow in the dark!.

22!. Don't wear expensive jewelry to work!. Chances are you lose them (I've lost an earing, belly button ring)!.

23!. Have at least 2 pairs of shoes!. It's always better to get stripper shoes than just regular high heel shoes!. They are more comfortable to dance in!. I usually buy half a size/size bigger otherwise they give me blisters!.

24!. Pick out your favorute bands/songs beforehand, it will make a DJ's job easier and you won't have to dance to some crappy music!. You can always give him a list with songs or a cd/memory card with some songs you want him to play!. Usually if a DJ is not an a$$, he'll do it for a nice tip!.

25!. Be creative with a stage name!.

Stay positive, never let this job degrade you!Www@QuestionHome@Com

the movie "Dancing at the Blue Iguana" should help!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

1) You are there to do a job and make money!. Not friends or boyfriends!. Because this is true, if somebody doesn't have money--MOVE ON!.

2) Have a thick skin!. Men are going to say the most f-ed up things you have ever heard in you life to get you to do things!. Ignore it!.

3) Be secure in yourself!. The job is demeaning and degrading in ways you can never imagine until you are actually there doing it!. Don't let what you are going to be surrounded by hurt your spirit and integrity!. That goes for outside the club as well as inside!. People have a lot of preconceived notions about dancers that you alone aren't going to be able to dispel Learn to let it roll off your back!.

4) No drugs!. Dont drink while you're at work!.

5) Tip the bouncers!. They're there to protect you!. Make it worth their while to keep you safe!.

--As far as money goes, its a job that teaches you to read and hustle people!. You'll make what you put into it!. You body is what you're selling, so, looks are whats important!. But getting people to spend as much money on you is really what you're going to want to learn!. The most successful dancers are comfortable picking up men with their own personality!. If you want a guy you see at a bar to buy you a drink, whats the best way you know to get him to do that!? Go from there!. Learn the clientele in your club and cater to their preferences in your apperance!.

The rotation times and time spent on stage varies!. You're club manager will fill you in on the particulars in your club!.

Like they say, Make the money!. Don't let it make you!.Www@QuestionHome@Com