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Question: Dance is taking over my life!!?
I can't stand how much money my parents spend on me!. I'm only average at it and to be honest i can't say how much I like it!. I love the art of dance and being able to let go and move but all the training and perfecting isn't what im interested in!.
My parents say I can't worry about it cause it's what i've wanted!. I can't see dance as being something i am doing in the future but everyone says quitting is a mistake cause it shows college i can't stick to things cause i've been doing it for 7 years now!.
I love my dance teachers and there are only a few girls i actually like in dance!.
I don't want to upset them or my parents, but i can't keep costing my parents this money that could be put to better use!. im so greatful for the time i've danced and its taught me so much!.
I need help!. Is college worth my happiness!?Www@QuestionHome@Com


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Quitting this close to college probably wouldn't be a good thing, because yes, they really do care about commitments and keeping them and sticking with things!. If people have things that they quit a few years before you apply to college they look at that as a very negative thing because they think that if you quit one thing, then you could quit more (basically, they think you would be more likely to drop out of college if you quit things)!. Colleges actually really like seeing dance on college applications too!. Since it's both a form of art and a sport, it shows variety within a person, and commitment, since yes, it is demanding!.
Explain to your parents that you like dance, but you want to stop taking so much of it!. Maybe only take your favorite style of dance instead of a bunch of different things!. That way you're still dancing, but not as much so it's making your unhappy, because your happiness is more important than college!. Just dance for the fun and excersize, not for perfection and exact precision!. If you cut down on classes, you'll probably find joy in it again and it will cost your parents less money!. I'm sure not everyone things you're only average at it too!. Besides, you should want to dance because it's fun not to be the best, or among the best!. Trying to be among the best and looking at people and themselves as "good" "bad" and "average" can actually make a dancer more unhappy because it's adding unnesseary competition to it!. If you dance in competitions, maybe stop competing and dance in a recital class!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Honey my daughter is the same way I don't regret spending my money on my daughters dance classes, she loves to dance!. It all adds up with tuition, dance clothes, competitions etc!.!.!. I kinda knew she would love to dance after all she was born footling breech (feet first)Www@QuestionHome@Com

Maybe it's time for you to explore some different styles of dance!. The ballet/tap/jazz/danceline world, especially in junior high and high school, can be very overwhelming!. It is very expensive and a huge demand on your time, and there's a lot of emphasis on competition, which isn't always everyone's cup of tea!.

I highly recommend looking into taking a bellydance class if there are any in your area!. It is a friendly, fun, non-competitive dance!. Nobody will care if you are "only average at it," and it is all about just being able to let go and move, as you put it!. It really helps you feel good in your own skin!.

Or perhaps you could try some swing dance, or ballroom dance!? Taking dance classes with both men and women in them tends to eliminate a lot of the catiness that you see in dances dominated by women!. And knowing partner dances will be useful at events like college dances, sorority formals, and weddings!.

Lastly, no, I don't think college cares that much!. Life is too short to spend it doing things that your heart isn't into!. Do what makes you happy!Www@QuestionHome@Com

I understand what you're feeling!. Dance is something you've done for most of your life but not necessarily something you want to do professionally!. There is no harm in continuing to dance, as long as you still enjoy doing it!. But if, on the other hand, it no longer brings you joy and seems like an everyday chore or a wast of time and money, then maybe it's time you took a break from it!. See how you feel for awhile not doing it, say 6 months!. Then reassess how you feel and make a decision from there!. Remember, your life ultimately is your decision, not your parents or your friends!. If you explain to them in a mature manner what you want to do and tell them your plan, they should understand!. Good luck and hope I helped!Www@QuestionHome@Com