Is it wrong for me to demand my wife to learn to pole dance?

Question:She seriously needs to learn how to be sexy cos she has lost it big time and doesnt do it for me anymore
I booked her some lessons but she dont want to go - am I being harsh for demanding she go.

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: She seriously needs to learn how to be sexy cos she has lost it big time and doesnt do it for me anymore
I booked her some lessons but she dont want to go - am I being harsh for demanding she go.

No, shes your property. She must do anything you tell her. Its in the bible.

Yes, demanding her to do ANYTHING is wrong. You need to re-evaluate your role as a husband and find out God's way for you to love your wife.

yes. if you can't get it up anymore, that's your fault, not hers. don't make her do something just for your gratification.

uh yeah, if you wanted a stripper you should of married one, it's not for everyone, and making lessons without her permission is very rude and inconsiderate. If you are not attracted to her anymore, do you really think poll dancing will fix everything? Your just gonna make it worse. What attracted you to her in the first place? You need to think about why your not feelin her anymore, and work on it, if you want to work on your marriage.

Yes! Forcing someone to be sexy is definitely not the way to get her libido on. Why don't you talk to her? Buy her some lingerie or some toys? You please her and she'll return the favor.

i agree a pole for every women

Ooh, it's provocative bogus question time.

I'm guessing you don't even have a wife, son.

Yes you are for being demanding. Have you taken the time to see how you may have lost your spark in certain areas, maybe if you took the time to work on some of your diminushed touches that attracted her to you then she'd be more than willing to look into comfortable and new venues to bring the sexy back into her routine

Being a wife myself i would be seriously indignant and would most likely lead to a row if my husband demanded i do anything. Your wife is not a possession, shes your partner! By not talking to her about this and booking the lessons without discussing it with her it is likely that you have not only alienated her but also damaged her self esteem. This will lead her to withdrawing even more from sexual activity. What you need to do is to sit down with your wife and talk to her about how you are feeling. Explain why you have booked the lessons for her but try not to put her down by telling her she is unattractive or unsexy. Try and understand perhaps why your wifes behavior has changed and what you can both do together to improve the passion. You are a team, a partnership and these things need to be discussed not demanded!

Get her the cardio striptease workout.

Yes. You shouldn't demand your wife to do anything. She has free will just like you. instead of demanding you should have asked her how does she feels about pole dancing. If she says it's ok then that's when you sign her up for the classes. If she doesn't like it then leave her alone.

Maybe if you offer to learn the pole with her!!
Then you can wear all those sexy queen outfits you've been asking about!

You can get one installed in yer living room and perform for friends for money on weekends!!

Nah, it's perfectly normal. My husband demanded me to pole dance and it was the best thing I ever did for our marriage. You keep on her until she smartens up. Someone has to be responsible and do something to save your marriage. As far as I'm concerned -- she is one lucky lady!

Yes, you can't mold someone into who you want them to be. She is reluctant to go because you're "demanding" her...if you had perhaps suggested it, and told her you think it would be such a turn on, maybe she would've considered it, but the way you booked the lessons without thinking about whether it would be something she's comfortable with was a blow to her self esteem and your relationship. Next time, suggest it as something that will be fun for both of you instead of making her feel so objectified.

Yes, it is wrong for you to demand that she learn to pole dance. Even if she did go to the lessons, she likely wouldn't learn much from them, because she isn't really interested for herself. And even if she did pole dance for you after taking the lessons it likely wouldn't be very exciting if she really isn't into it.

How would you react if she scheduled lessons for you to learn something that really doesn't interest you? Let's say you're very afraid of heights and she scheduled you for hang gliding... would you be enthusiastic if it was sprung on you unexpectedly?

What you really need to do is sit down and talk with each other to find out what's really going on together. Try to figure out what you can do together to improve your situation. It is possible that from her perspective you "have lost it big time and don't do it" for her anymore either.

Well demanding her is not good but telling her too or join it with her is not bad.