How many people have seen a guy wear a dress as a coverup for ballet?

Question:I am a guy and have started ballet, I wore a dress instead of a tracksuit to go out to eat after ballet class, I just put on the dress and went out with one of the girls. Has anyone else ever seen a guy do this?

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: I am a guy and have started ballet, I wore a dress instead of a tracksuit to go out to eat after ballet class, I just put on the dress and went out with one of the girls. Has anyone else ever seen a guy do this?

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nope. but thumbs up for you ballet is great! but stertch before and after class and wear leg warmers before and after class.

I've seen men in drag before, if that is what you are asking.

I have never seen a guy wear a dress for after or before dance. But you are brave.

Given that you changed your avatar from one with a long-haired androgynous look to a very cute girl with short hair (and you started out with an avatar of a short-haired guy a few weeks ago), I'd say that you're using both this question and your new ballet classes to explore your gender identity. There's nothing wrong with exploring your gender identity, but I think you need to be more honest about doing that rather than feeding into stereotypes that surround ballet. (For example, I rarely see women ballet dancers wear a dress as a coverup for ballet. The stereotype is that ballet is about femininity and only girly-girls - or girly guys - do it.)

In a past question of yours, you asked "Do you think it should be socially acceptable for men to wear skirts or dresses?" and you wrote right below that, "I am not a crossdresser and do not wear those things..." So it would appear that you're exploring new ground. That's fine by me. But you see, it IS about your being either a transvestite or a transgendered individual. Therefore YOU are the one who needs to accept YOURSELF rather than trying to get society to accept dresses as regular clothes for men (which is a totally different issue). I've seen your questions where you insist that you're straight, but being gay or straight is different from being transgendered.

If you haven't found it yet, there is a Y!A category for "Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered" buried under "Culture & Groups" under "Society & Culture," where you could explore your cross-dressing questions more honestly. However, I would also encourage you to find a local support group through your college so you can better figure out who you are.

Best of luck to you.

Edit: Whoa, your avatar changed again to another cute girl.

Response to Additional Details:

BBallfan, I KNOW you're really going to ballet classes. If you read my answer carefully, that fact was acknowledged. I don't doubt that one bit. I'm saying that you're not being honest with yourself about your real motives for wanting to wear women's clothes. Scottish Highlander society certainly accepted men in "skirts" and the men didn't have to look like women in order to dress that way. (Far from it!) Must I remind you of your best answer to "J Spikes" who asked "Would guys rather have...?" ("Singles & Dating, 1 week ago) This is not about gender equality for wardrobe options. It's about how you feel inside of your body. There is a difference and you need to face that.

P.S. While you can't blame me for "stalking" your avatar when you change it just as I'm answering your question, I DO look up background details when I see people being dishonest or clueless about dance issues. To your credit, you are the first cross-dresser who's come through here who is really taking ballet (compared to the ones who claim that their mothers or dance teachers are forcing them to wear women's dancewear.) However, your question is still dishonest as a dance question because a) your ballet class is just an excuse for you to wear a dress, and b) you're trying to find safety and social acceptance for your gender identity issues by pretending that this might be (or should be) a common aspect of dancer society. It's not, so I become suspicious of a questioner's motives.

Please understand, I think it's fine that you wish to present as a woman, even if it must begin as an avatar. But take it from a middle-aged lady who's addressing a 19 year old guy: you're acting as though you don't realize what you're going through and, in your confusion, you're trying to pass it off as something else. That's not fair to you and it certainly isn't fair to those of us who take pride in our knowledge of the dance world.