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Question:I started ballet at the tender age of 4. When I was young, I always dream of becoming a great ballerina. However,it will never come true! I had learnt ballet for many years and I am now in grade eight. I couldn't stand going for ballet class anymore, I don't know why. Everytime the class ends I will always feel sad, dissapointed like a looser! This is because I cannot dance! I am just some looser who is not willing to accept that I don't have any talent in dancing ballet. I have always wanted to stop. Then, I wouldn't feel so depressed. My exam marks are very low and I had accepted it as I know I am horrible in dancing! I practised 4 times a week although I have to travel around 15 km from my house to the ballet studio, but I don't know why I just have no feelings, no presence when dancing. My technique is not too good too! I want to stop! But this will just make my parents dissapointed! They had spend alot of money on my ballet fees and attire.

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: I started ballet at the tender age of 4. When I was young, I always dream of becoming a great ballerina. However,it will never come true! I had learnt ballet for many years and I am now in grade eight. I couldn't stand going for ballet class anymore, I don't know why. Everytime the class ends I will always feel sad, dissapointed like a looser! This is because I cannot dance! I am just some looser who is not willing to accept that I don't have any talent in dancing ballet. I have always wanted to stop. Then, I wouldn't feel so depressed. My exam marks are very low and I had accepted it as I know I am horrible in dancing! I practised 4 times a week although I have to travel around 15 km from my house to the ballet studio, but I don't know why I just have no feelings, no presence when dancing. My technique is not too good too! I want to stop! But this will just make my parents dissapointed! They had spend alot of money on my ballet fees and attire.

Have you sought extra help or asked questions? Does your instructor point out what you are doing wrong? You should be doing exercises at home every day because you need to work on your flexibility. The most important part of dancing is that you enjoy it. It takes time and consistent/regular effort to become good. You are still very young. Everyone develops at their own pace. You may not to see real improvement until you are 16. If you enjoy ballet then keep at it. Start doing pilates. Ask your instructor what else you can do. Maybe ballet isn't natural for you (and it's not for a lot of dancers) so you are going to have to work a bit harder but if you enjoy it then it's not so bad. I love to dance. I studied gymnastics and ballet. I also took tap and jazz dance lessons. It sounds like you may need measurable and short-term goals that work towards a larger goal. Talk to your instructor. Tell your feelings and thoughts. I'm sure that she or he can be of real assistance to you. Don't give up unless you really hate it.
Forget about the talent thing. It's too soon to tell.

well , dont just do it cuz ur family wants u 2

You need talent or you are wasting everybody's time. Your parents will get over it...tell them!

Look, if you don't like it, quit. Seriously, if ballet is making you miserable, don't do it anymore. You know that unless you love and adore ballet and are willing to give up anything for it, you can't go anywhere with it. And if it's making you sad, then you can't love it, so quit. Maybe you need like, a break though, try taking a year or so off.

And it isn't all about talent, but lyricism and technical perfection.

You started at age 4.. and you are a teenager now.. You're probably burned out. If someone gets worn out doing the same thing over and over (without having enthusiasm towards what their doing) their love for it drops, -- as well as their ability to perform well.

If you're not up to telling your folks you want to stop completely.. at the very least tell them you need a break and would like to experience something besides ballet. -- Then go and find other things that will make you happy and enthusiastic.

Give ballet another try. Go to the studio with the attitude of being great, not a looser. To become a good ballet dancer, you'll have to work really hard! Practice on your own at home. After a month or so, if you still don't like ballet much, talk to your parents. I'm sure they will understand! Just try for a few more weeks with ballet and then decide what to do with your parents!
*You know what's funny? I've been dancing since I was four years old and now I'm in eighth grade! Like you!

Ballet makes me happy, thats why I dance. It gives me a certain feeling. When im dancing it...it's amazing. And when im not dancing, I want to be dancing.

Don't dance for anyone but yourself, if you don't enjoy it, then don't dance.

You sound burned out and maybe need a break - temporary or maybe permanent. You may need also to switch to a new studio and new teachers. To answer your question, ballet in the end is almost all about physical talent coupled with attitude and stage presence. You may have reached your peak. The question after your break is to keep dancing for exercise and fun or stop completely - it is only a decision you can make. If dance at this time is nothing but a constant source fo frustration and pain, then stop, at least for awhile. A break might give you a better perspective of things and just let you heal up, and reset mentally. Tell your parents that you need a break and that you don't know for how long. I don't think they invested money in lessons expecting that you would be a professional, just to dance until you reached your limits. They will adjust and support you sooner or later though it may be difficult for them. I wish you the best of luck

Take this from someone in the same positon. Ten years of ballet from age 41/2, but I stink. I have no turnout or extention. I can just jump and spot(yes with my head) well. But I LOVE what I do. You have to look at yourself. If ballet moves you then continue. If it doesn't quit. It's that simple. It doesn't matter about your parents, they will understand. it is about YOU.