I wrote a relationship book not yet published and found out that?

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I wrote a relationship book not yet published and found out that?

someone opposite sex wrote something very similar, can there be any problems that i should be aware of ? I fell into his site yesterday and interesting enough..found. we speak the same language our words, opinions and even his wife has my name..I wrote him a letter, a very positive letter regarding our commonalities. I went to spell check it and lost it..I'm debating to write it again. What is your advise. I have dated articles that show this.. LoveDoctorStacy
My site is now ready to go up.

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: "I went to spell check it and lost it."

I assume this means you had it saved to your computer, had a glitch, and accidentally deleted it.

That sucks. You just lost your only possible proof that the similarities between your work and his were purely by accident.

However, even if you still had it, and had whatever kind of proof that you didn't plagerize, and that the similarities were accidental, you would still be out of luck. This is because he has already copyrighted his book. If he sues you, he'd win.

Imagine that somebody thinks of a brilliant idea to produce a new antibiotic at the same time as I do. Even after I do. But they get to the copyright office first to patent their process. My process happens to be the same. Even though I thought of it first, and even if I can prove without a doubt that I didn't steal my idea from him, I would not be able to use the process to make the drug and sell the product or the process without his express, written consent.

My advice?
Write another book with a different topic. It can still be about relationships. There are many different facets among many different kinds of relationships. Since you added me to your friends list, I know you must be a brilliant woman (Hahahaha!! I just had to say that!), and can think of many things to write on.

But as I see it, the only way you could reproduce what you lost, publish it, and sell it, is to get his written permission first. I doubt that would happen.

Even so, I would consult an attorney, for the simple fact that I am not one. I know a bit about the law but just like relationships, the law has many different areas of specialization. You need an attorney, and one that specializes in patent law. I could be wrong about all that I've told you. An attorney will get you a definite, correct, and thorough answer. especially since he will have time to hear you tell him about all the details that he needs to know.

Good luck, though.

El Chistoso