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Position:Home>Arts & Humanities> How can it be....?Question: How can it be....?that people can say they are able to honestly and sincerely forgive when, because of memory, they can never truly forget? Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: To "forgive and forget" is more of a hope and effort than an actual thing that happens. When one "forgives and forgets" one attempts to act as though there is a clean slate, even if the offending event comes to mind. "somewhere along the line something will bring it back to memory (even if not intentional) and you will bring the situation up again." While something may happen to bring the past transgression to mind, one does not have to "bring the situation up again." That is part of the "forgive and forget" Forgiveness is not linked to forgetting. Forgiveness involves believing in the other person and not holding their past transgressions against them in the future. It is not bringing up the past after one has said "I forgive you", for if one brings up the past, one is still holding the past against that person. It is not what actually happens that matters, but rather how one acts that matters. |