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Question: How to brake the news to your mother that your book isn't suitable for someone my age!?
I'm writing a story, and hope to get it published some day, but I'm scared of my mothers reaction!. I'm only fourteen and I write about some raunchy things-and mild violence, as well as other things of that nature!. What if she flips out and gets mad at me!? How do you deal with that or what can I do to lighten the blow!? She might think that I'm doing those things!. What do I do!? Please help me! Scared of being grounded or having my book destroyed, or something!.Www@QuestionHome@Com


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Although I wouldn't want to tell you what you should write, I have a few tips on how to handle the violence!. In your writing, don't glorify the violence!. Assuming that your mother will read your writing, show that the violence affected the characters in a negative way!. Talk with her after she's read it to show that just because the characters engage in it, it doesn't mean that you think it's a good thing!. Same with the raunchy scenes, to a certain extent!. This is a bit trickier because all parents are different, and I don't know how your mother feels!. Nonetheless, you clearly already know about adult themes!. Does your mother allow you to see movies with adult themes or read books with that sort of content!? If so, I can't imagine that she would think that you shouldn't know it exists!.
If you can, talk to your mother about your writing!. Explain that you don't necessarily engage in what the characters do, and just because you write about it does not mean that you are involved in it!. I hope it works out for you!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

As a mother, I'd have to ask first, where are you getting your knowledge!? What is inspiring you to write raunchy things!? I would wonder what you had been doing or reading in order to get the ideas actually!. Is it possible that you are feeling some guilt over the material you're writing!? Writing should be something that brings you pleasure, not something you're worried about being punished for!. So, I'd take a good look at what it is you're writing!. What is your reason behind writing something raunchy and violent!?

Hopefully, you and your mother have a close enough relationship that you won't have to hide this from her!. I'm thinking it's your own conscience that is "speaking" to you though!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

These days teen books are ripe with adult situations - Gossip Girl, Rainbow Party - etc!. I'm sure if the themes you are using are central and needed for the story, your mother would understand it's fiction and just plot devices, not a reflection of your life!. You have to grow up sometime, right!? In the meantime, keep working at your book and make sure whatever you use - sex or violence - is actually needed in the story, and go from there!. Best of luck!

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I've once read in a book or somewhere that a well acclaimed author once quoted "anything you remove from a book you won't regret" but if what is being written affects the storyline, DO NOT REMOVE IT!. I am pretty sure your mother won't be to angry about it, I mean if it gets published she will be proud more than anything!. Good luck and keep writing!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Notice you said 'some day'!. No offense, but very few teenagers get their books published!. You wouldn't have to worry about what your mother things, or getting grounded, if you're book's completely done and you've long since moved out!.
Don't worry too much!.
The stuff I write is pretty bad, too!. But then, my mom doesn't care!. haha
also, if you're afraid she'll destroy your book, I'd assume your mom is very narrow-minded!. If she supports you in writing, she'd support you in writing ANYTHING you write!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Telling her taht you enjoy writing in a world where image is about evrything is really important!.
Image=no thinking!.
So writting increases your brain skills!.

But other thing that comes to my mind is that you can inspire in a movie or something just to avoid telling her that taht idea came from a personal fact (lets see a rape)Www@QuestionHome@Com

Make copies, if you are going to show her!.

Keep the copies!.

Tell her ahead of time, as a disclaimer, that you are not involved in these things!. You are just a perceptive and intuitive person and you are using your imagination combined with real world issues!.

Don't show your mom the book until it is finished, as a way of buying time!?

Good Luck! Keep writing!Www@QuestionHome@Com

who cares what she thinks!. seriously!.
if you're that concerned just talk to her about it,
depending on what type of mom, idk!.Www@QuestionHome@Com