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Question: Isn't validation what we are all really seeking!?
Seeking Validation

Often asked, this question is posed,
"What is your earliest happy memory!?"
All the files stored within my brain
I flip through to seek my answer!.

Childhood years!? No, they are a blank!.
God forgive me, it's not even found
When babes first laid at my breast!.
In shame, I continue frantic search!.

At last, I stop at file marked year 45
When I failed in desperate fourth attempt
to bring closure to life's endless pain!.
The day a brother's call saved my life!.

"You must pack a bag, from that house
you must leave, get on a plane, get out!.
But first, promise me this you'll do!.
Tomorrow morning, watch the sun arise!."

Alone on front porch, in chilly morn
I took heed his insistent command!.
The sun arose and it spoke to me
profoundly, message new to my soul!.

"I validate you, your essence, your being
I recognize your life, you exist!"
My heart renewed in this moment of joy,
it remains my earliest happy memory!.

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Best Answer - Chosen by Asker:
My earliest happy memory was about 4 years ago, when I happened to find a now deleted web page called jayr's poetry corner!. It had a very pretty poem called sea of life, and I memorized it, although it was very long!. I had written a little poetry in school, and the other kids made fun of me, so I quit!. After reading that poem, I started trying to write again!. Then one day I came on Yahoo and started reading the very same poem I had memorized that had been posted by Dondi!. My first thought was that he had stolen it, and I was furious!. I sent him an email, and found out that he was actually the jayr of the website!. It was a chatroom sponsered page, and his chatname was jayr!. I started sending him samples of my writing and asking what was wrong!. He gave me pointers and encouragement, and sent me to a couple of very good reference sites, and I did improve slightly!. The day he told me he would consent to become my surrogate father, I was validated!. Even being shot has not invalidated me, so I suppose nothing will!. I have rambled on too long, please forgive me!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

It has taken me a long time to figure this out, and the fact that it works for me doesn't necessarily mean it will work for you!. From what I can tell, what we are all seeking is love, and it is most definitely there to find if we're willing to see it!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Had to think about this before answering!.

I find I agree, and yet!.!.validation from whom!?
Whether I am here or not, the sun will rise tomorrow!.
Sigh, I am explaining this poorly so will refrain from further comment other than to add!.!.

leaps and bounds!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

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Mine if I may!.!.
Sitting in the dusty attic
The dust sparkling as it flew
About in the light coming through
The one tiny window
A spinning top!.!.!. a jack in the box
Would mesmerize me
I found treasures galore
In that dark dusty attic
With the sun streaming on bright
Slender stream onto the dirty wood floor!.!.!.!.
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When I had my 26th birthday!.!.!.!.I was free for the 1st time since it all went wrong!.!.!.!.Although I was not yet aware of the walls I had left up, I was for once free, from the self imposed hell I created to survive the hell around me!.!.!.!.!.Every Pearl Harbor Day since!.!.!.!.I turn 26Www@QuestionHome@Com

Remember we are all under the same moon!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

leaving to be free is a good thing to have in ones life!. if you are young or older it is still good!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

What a lovely poem and it does make one think of those long ago years!. ?Www@QuestionHome@Com

For me, I prefer to keep the mirror of the past dusty, so dusty!. Clean pictures may make hearts tired, when life is so short!.!.You had the courage though, to lift the stage curtains!.!.Well put!
Edit : for the leading question:
I used to look at validation being the most needed, then it turned out to be a dream!.!. So I changed my direction toward love, as Robert K mentioned, but found out its even harder quest!. A third alternative was simpler, easier , and more effective!.!.tell you about it later, as an answer to another question!!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I don't remember ever searching for validation, but on inner reflection, I suppose we all need some type validity!. And I just found out I have been a validator!. Love your poem, but if true, hate the circumstance!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

One day, when I was very young!.!.!.!.about 8 or 9 I was playing outside in a meadow, running around - doing what kids do!. Tired, I lay on my back and looked at the sky!.!.!.!.a beautiful blue with enormous white billowing clouds!.!.!.clouds which looked like buildings, and trees and animals - changing all the time!. I felt this strange sensation as if my heart had grown bigger and was pushing out of my chest!.!.!.!.I was a little frightened!. I'd never felt like it before!. I get that feeling now!.!.!.!.but, I recognise it for what it is!.!.!.!.it is happiness!.
It happened only on one other occasion when I was a child!.!.!.!.!.not much from an entire childhood, two moments of happiness!.
Excellent poem!.!.!.!.perhaps, poets are born and grow from adversity - yes!?Www@QuestionHome@Com