How to not fight?

Question:Walk away from the agravation. Find out what is behind your desire to fight. To do this sometimes I punch a pillow and just watch my thoughts. It takes time sometimes and words and faces start to flash through my mind and I recognise the irritation, the annoyances, the frustrations,the disappointments the embarrasments the put downs and whatever else. Now I begin to know what I am dealing with and realise that dealing with each one individually is the best way to go. Sometimes we are fighting with the wrong person because we really hav'nt got a hand on why we want to fight. You can't have every thing in life. Just settle for the best you can have and sort you need out from your wants.

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: Walk away from the agravation. Find out what is behind your desire to fight. To do this sometimes I punch a pillow and just watch my thoughts. It takes time sometimes and words and faces start to flash through my mind and I recognise the irritation, the annoyances, the frustrations,the disappointments the embarrasments the put downs and whatever else. Now I begin to know what I am dealing with and realise that dealing with each one individually is the best way to go. Sometimes we are fighting with the wrong person because we really hav'nt got a hand on why we want to fight. You can't have every thing in life. Just settle for the best you can have and sort you need out from your wants.

don't be there.

avoid trouble.