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Question: How can I become happier with myself and life in general!? I always feel dissatisfied!.!. Help me!?
I am a senior in college, and I'll be graduating in April!. From the outside it looks like I have it everything together!. However, I just feel so alone and sad all the time!. I always look for other people to entertain me, and if I'm not doing that, I'm alone sitting in my room!. I don't feel any passion at all doing anything, and I'm always looking for the next thing!. For example, right now I keep thinking that once I find "the one" then I'll be happy, once I move to a bigger city and get away from college life then I'll be happy!. I'm just so bored all the time, and I just sit in my room!. I'll be graduating with a bachelor's degree in communication and international business, and I have no idea what I'm going to do with it!. I seem driven though, I've done a variety of internships, I've traveled to Japan, studied in France, toured Italy, Spain, and Belgium while there!. I have an extremely supportive family and friends!. I've been having problems with my boyfriend, but I think that's because I'm never content with anything!. I play 3 musical instruments, dance, I am also into photography and writing, and I have done some modeling, and I'm also involved in church!. I have a very good gpa, so it seems like I have my act together!. However I find myself always second guessing myself, unable to make decisions, and never feeling satisfied!. I am always bored, and I always just sit on Yahoo Answers, trying to find an answer!. Whenever someone talks about what they're doing in life, I feel like I should be doing what they're doing, and I get envious!. I always tell myself well if this happens then I'll be happy!.!. I'm just so tired of feeling bored and alone!.!. Sometimes on the weekends I just sit in my room alone and I HATE IT!. What should I do especially if my friends are busy!? All I do is sleep and watch tv, or think about the next step in life that's better!.!. How can I be happy!? Help me!.!.
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Right now the two things that drive me most are the thought of getting married or moving to a big city!. I just have always had the dream of getting married and being madly in love!. I also depend on other people to tell me what to do in life, when it comes to major decisions!. It's like I have no self identity anymore, and I don't even know what to do with myself!.!. I just feel so alone and sad!.!. and yet I do have hobbies I guess, it's not fulfilling and neither is my job really, even though it's great!. Even going out with people isn't fulfilling (people just seem so shallow), it just seems like there's somethin better out there for me, and I'm so lost!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
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You don't sound spoiled and ungrateful!. You sound unhappy!. Do you think it's possible you have what they call a "false self!?" A self that was built on other people's expectations and needs!? You do so much!. But are these things that you really enjoy!? I bet you come from a family of high achievers!. You were probably taught that achieving is the main thing in life!. If that's true, you may be living from the vantage point of trying to look good to other people, to obtain their admiration, instead of living from your own center and finding what fulfills you!. Why don't you keep a journal for awhile!? Just write in it a few times a day, spontaneously without planning what you are going to say!. Just write for a half hour!. Write whatever comes to your mind!. Don't censor yourself!. Things will come out that you didn't know you were feeling or thinking!. I think maybe you feel cut off from yourself!. If that is the problem, journaling can help!. It's not a cure all, but it can be a place to start!. Good luck!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
A= You sound like someone I would like to marry!.
My opinion!.!.!. Hang around creative, inspirational, artist types that think outside the box, Like me!Www@QuestionHome@Com
I see an agreement among philosophers and others that joy is in service!. IMO, the most important scripture is that the spirit of truth will lead you into all truth!. It answers all your questions!. "Go within, or go without!." That spirit talks to you by your inner thoughts, variously called your muse, the still small voice, intuition, revelation, inspiration, the helper!. It is heard by listening to yourself and looking inward!. Scripture says that we are made in God's image and that we have the mind of Christ, but no one seems to get that!. Was it Ezekiel who said, "!.!.the wind came and He wasn't in the wind, the fire came, but He wasn't in the fire, but in the still small voice!." Einstein said that, "The only real valuable thing is intuition!."
You are talking somewhat about emotions!. Behind every emotion is a major thought and lesser thoughts controlling the emotion!. Change the thought and you change the emotion!. So everything is logical or not!. That's Cognitive Therapy!. also emotions have been studied for a long time and you will find the information under Emotional Intelligence very helpful!.
We need a higher cause!. When we are full of love, we just want to, no, need to give it away, which gets us more love!. Of, course there is a way of doing that that gives us those results, but it's in there somewhere!.
Other tricks are also scriptural, like dropping negative words, finding things we like in our lives, thankfulness, counting our blessing and dropping negative judgmental words for a whole new view of life and thereby receiving the fruit of the spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, a balanced meekness, balanced humility, faith and self control and a better conection to the right brain and whole brain thinking!.
s anything simple!? Is anything totally free!. You find out these things from struggle, adversity, soul searching and finally Internet Googling!. LOL It seems you have begun the sruggle and are suffering the birth panges!. You are blessed!. So many go through life and never find out what it's all about and the joy, not to mention knowing the nature of truth!. From where you're at people either slip down to unconsciouness or up to a higher consciousness!. Even the journey up can be devastating at the same time, if you don't learn the rules!. That's why we study philosophy and all it studies!. Part of communiction is interviewing!. We are so shallow in our interviewing of ourselves, that it does only harm!. Only indepth interview does the trick!. And knowledge!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
We live in a culture built around consumer values, which requires making us dissatisfied in order to motivate us to go out and buy more stuff!.
If you try avoiding TV, shopping in malls and looking for more stuff to acquire, you'll start giving yourself a little time to appreciate what you already have!. If you take a little time to help others who might be less fortunate or in need of a little attention (such as children or seniors) it will go a long way to helping you feel more fulfilled with life in general!. Who knows, you might even develop a healthy perspective and make your world happier and more productive!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
You're only dissatisfied because you think out TOO much of your life!.
Just go where life takes you!. Study now, pay later!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
get out of your palace in the sky, and go volunteer at a homeless shelter!. If that does not open your eyes then nothing will!. You sound spoiled and ungrateful!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Count the I's and me's in your question!. A lot of them!. You seem to be focusing on yourself!. Begin to concentrate on using your skills for the comon good of humanity!. That good will come back to you!. I think that is the alone and saddness that you are feeling You have matured to the level of a giver than that of a taker!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
It sounds to me like you're depressed!. I felt exactly the same way at the same point in my life!. I just kept going through the motions, went on to grad school, hated the big city, got my heart broken by my girlfriend!.!.!. and it just kept winding onward from there, nothing in my life seemed to go the way I'd planned!.!.!. and a difficult decade followed!. Long story short, I finally talked to a counselor and to my doctor about my struggles and started trying some anti-depression medication!. It took a couple of years before the right medication and dosage and common-sense type counseling seemed to really bring about results!.!.!.
Now, the circumstances in my life aren't that different: my job isn't a classic "career-track" one, I never found my "Special Someone" and I still don't feel like I've got it together or found all the answers, but I have a certain peace and contentment!. I work with troubled youth in my day-to-day job and take satisfaction in doing my best one day at a time, and I have to say that, in spite of the unanswered questions in my life, I'm more at peace and content than I can ever really remember!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
I am curious how you could know these things would make you happy if you haven't experienced them first hand!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
i dont know which church it is youre attending, but it looks like the christian message is right up your alley!. pick up some c!. s!. lewis and spend those spare hours that way!. it'll make your heart beat slower!. in a good way!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
don't hang out with depressing people like artists or writers(there depressing)
habitat for humanity always needs help
soup kitchens
food banks
it'll teach you how fortunate you are
ummm
sky diving
bungee jumping
get in a band!?
i've heard religion works(not my thing but idk)Www@QuestionHome@Com