Is it better to take care of yourself first(make yourself feel good). Or take ca

Question: Is it better to take care of yourself first(make yourself feel good)!. Or take care of others first!.(help other!?

should one enjoy excess in life, or is it better to help others!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

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It should always be helping others!. For me, it gives me more personal satisfaction than helping myself, because that always leaves a tinge of guilt!.

I guess you could argue that helping others is selfish, because a lot of people do it for the warm fuzzy feeling afterwards (a reward for themselves) but to be honest, if you are really and truly helping others, I think you deserve that 'selfishness'!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

It is better to help yourself first!.

If you can't help yourself, who can you help!?

It has nothing to do with making yourself feel good and it certianly has nothing to do with excess (which is never good in anything)!. It has to do with capability and example!.

A teacher should know what they teach before they teach a child!. A policeman can't protect you if he get's shot first!.

Better yourself, then serve as an example to others and help them become better!. This is a way to prevent hypocrisy!. This is why a priest teaches about the evils of pre-marital sex-but is then caught for molesting an altar boy!. He never made himself righteous, so he can't make others that way either!.

Confucius and Lao Tzu both said that the ruler first ordered himself, then his family, and only then, could he bring his nation to order!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I don't see how taking care of yourself means you "enjoy excess in life"!. The way I see it, you need to take care of yourself before you can properly take care of another!. For instance, I'm a mom and if I didn't take care of my needs, I would be useless to my child!. That means making myself happy too!. Now when it comes to excess, that means your not really taking care of yourself, because if you live greedily you will be unhappy and unhealthy!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

As much as I would LOVE to say that it is far better to give than to receive, the truth is it is far more important to take care of yourself first!. If you don't who will!? Every listen to the pre-flight brief by the flight attendants!? If you are traveling with small children and there is a sudden depressurization in the cabin, the oxygen masks will automatically drop from the ceiling!. Put your on BEFORE you attempt to put on the child's!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

You can do both!. Let's face it, helping others makes us feel good!. Helping ourselves makes us feel good, but a little guilty!. The trick is to do both!. Maybe you give something up that you may have wanted in order to help another, but you feel like a better person for doing it!. The real question is - can helping another be selfish!?

Yes it can!. If you look down on someone and then try to help them - are you doing it because you want to truly be helpful - or are you doing it to seem helpful!. There's the difference!.

It's better to really want to help someone and not do it for person gain (whether your social circle will think you are nicer or kinder than you really are) than to give someone something and not really mean it in your heart!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

well in my life i like to make my self fell good and take care of myself,but everyone always asks my to help them or do something for them!. i guess because they think that i am a reliable person!.

i think that taking care of others should come first to some extent but don't forget about yourselfWww@QuestionHome@Com

For the longest time I always thought that I should see to the needs of others first put them above me!. But here I am 47 and I think I've been wrong all this time!. Depending on the call maybe I should have come first and everybody else dead last!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Often helping others and helping yourself are one and the same!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

The only way to happiness is to want others to be happy!. We can't want without acting out that want!. There is only one person here!. We are not our bodies!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

There is no definitive answer!. There are many shades of gray in between!.Www@QuestionHome@Com