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Question: Is this strange to not want to fall in love!?
I feel as if I can't take the risk of falling in love!. Love has the possibility of causing pain and that is my greatest fear!. Every time i've fallen in love I usually say something to the girl to take out the possibility of a relationship like "I like you but I have far to much work to do anything with these feelings"!.
Idk, I just feel like these feelings and my sexual urges just get in the way of my goals!. I wish I didn't have to deal with them, to feel them!. I wish I could just shove my face in a book all day long, that's all I really want to do, that is what makes me happy!. Love makes me nervous!. Is it weird!.
I feel as if I have to resist sex as much as possible, and I think that's destroying me!. I might be placing to much though into emotions, I see no way to express these feelings without the possibility of harming others - of hurting feelings!.
What do you think!?
I can't rationalize these feelings and it annoys me!. I'm a high school senior btw!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Best Answer - Chosen by Asker:
It's not at all strange, and I'm full of admiration that someone as young as you is already contemplating such things!.
Personally, I've been the victim of "hopeless love," and each time, my creative energy is totally sapped!.!.!.maybe I fall "too hard" when I experience these feelings for someone else!. I'm currently recovering from my latest "bout" and while my heart and soul feel somewhat bruised and battered, at least my creative energy is starting to flow again into my art, rather than into sex!.
A lot of people somehow find a "middle ground" and enjoy a balanced life - including a sexual relationship - but some people (like me) are more, er, extremist, one could say!.!.!.
Anyway, like you, I'm nervous about "love" now!.!.!.I've made a vow to myself, "never again!.!.!." - but then, I said that last time, too!.!.!.
Unfortunately, humans are susceptible to these feelings!. Even the most devout celibate nun or monk grapples with these emotions, too!.!.!.
But I totally understand your feelings!. Be brave and strong!.
Hafwen xWww@QuestionHome@Com
You're smart to feel this way at this time!. You need to be an adult and a good man before you can offer yourself to a woman as a partner!. Go to college, make yourself into a good adult man, someone who can provide a woman a good home, then love will come to you, and it'll be worth the wait!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
It's not strange!. I am there with you too lolWww@QuestionHome@Com
Haha, oh man you sound just like someone I know!.!.!.!. ME!. Honestly, I went through a week of this stuff just last week!. There is a girl I love!. I wasn't necessarily afraid to tell her I love her just afraid to believe myself!. I commit extremely easily and I was afraid that I would give my all to her and she wouldn't return the favor!. I was also worried that she would get in the way of my goals to one day become a surgeon and travel the world!. For me, it took seeing her in the arms of another guy to realize how much I actually do love her, and now its just a matter of opening myself up to the possible failure of losing her down the road and finding a way to incorporate her, and her goals into my life and my goals!. I wont lie!.!.!. Its absolutely nerve wrecking, but I can see a sense of security coming in the future!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
dont be scared of getting hurt because how will you fall in love if you never fall at all!? everyone's heart gets broken, usually more than once!. but it makes you tougher, and it makes your next significant other just that more important!. and your relashionships will become stronger and stronger each time!. obviously you will have bad relashionships, you will have good ones too!. and dont feel like you have to have sex to get a girl, because lots of girls think guys like that are little piggies!. and since you are a senior, it sounds like you have so much work, but make room for a girl if you want!. but if thats not what makes you happy, wait!. wait until college, or after that too!. you have plenty of time!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Funny how we consider our sexuality separate from ourselves!. You body's goals are different from your goals!. Interesting how that works!.
I think you are perfectly normal!. No-one in high school is really ready for a meaningful, loving, sexual relationship!. It is best to wait, and to not let your life be ruled by such animalistic instincts as the desire to reproduce!. There is a time and place for everything, and if you play your cards right you will be the master of your destiny!.Www@QuestionHome@Com