Why do people stay together when they know it might be better to split up?

Question: Why do people stay together when they know it might be better to split up!?

Are humans masochists !?
Do we get a kick out of being mistreated or being hurt !?
Do we actually like to argue !?
Or is love an addiction !?

I dont get it !!
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Depends on the relationship!.
If you are in HS, its for popularity!.
College, because no one can pay rent alone!.
Job time, because you are too busy to find someone else without being fired!.
Engaged, because its going to be more of an embarrassment when you have to return gifts!.
Marriage, because you have to show your mom the relationship will work, and because of kids, payments, ect ect!.

Really i think a lot of it has to do with $$ !.!.!. but thats my assumption!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

It's most often because they have children together and they think it would be more traumatizing to split up then to stay in a bad relationship!. also, it's hard to make such a huge change to your life!. When you have dedicated so much of your time to one person, it is hard to just get up and walk away from it all!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

i think the reason is much less dramatic than all of that!. we are simply creatures of habit!. for a lot of people, the idea of change, and everything you would have to do to leave someone (especially if you are living together) and all the unknowns about what would happen next (even though all the unknowns might be fantastic things) is just harder than staying where they are!. It's habit!. And fear of the unknown!. Not to mention insecurity issues, and no, it's not because we 'like' being hurt!. Not that way!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

The fear of all the unknowns of having to restructure your whole life, which could include changing jobs, cities, names, etc, is less painful than the stress of staying in an unhealthy relationship!.

If a relationship turns sour and you aren't happy, then tell the other person that then try to make things better!. If no real improvement happens in 6 months, then pack up and split!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Leaving someone you loved, thought you loved, or think you might possibly still love can bring about a lot of complicated feelings and can thus be a very difficult decision to make!. Many people in abusive relationships are manipulated by his or her partner, not because they are weak or stupid but because they are human, and it is easy to be manipulated by someone you love or want to love!. Many people who sense that it would be better to exit the relationship still wish to explore possible mending strategies before making any further determinations!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Yes, to all of the above!. Human nature doesn't make it easy for anyone to admit wrongdoing (ie!., that we chose the wrong person) or accept that someone has a total misconception as to who you are, or about a situation, etc!. and I know personally that sometimes its nicer to be miserable with company than miserable without!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

"better the devil you know than the devil you don't"

And also because people are idiots and don't think they can do better, insecure, low self esteem!.!.!.

People rush into relationships all the time!. Its wise to know your self first!Www@QuestionHome@Com

One word is -fear!.
fear of being alone
fear of losing financially
fear of a vengeful person
fear of being socially cast as a single
fear of loss
fear of uncertainty
lack of confidence

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Creatures of habit!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

fear:
of poor, alone, no one to fight withWww@QuestionHome@Com

we get addicted to what is familiar we don't really like change even if it is best!.Www@QuestionHome@Com