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Question: Is this how my life's gonna be!? How do I get over this emptiness!?
I'm 24 and a half, F, and I'm about to finish my master and have an internship at a prestigious organisation next year!. I''ve been abroad since 18!. My life has always been great in respect of studies and work!. My CV is impeccable for my age!. Yet, I feel depressed more than a normal healthy person should!. I feel so empty especially in regard of my love life!. I've never had longterm relationship!. I'm good-looking (so all the guys who hit on me said) but there's always something that keep me from forming solid relationships with guys!. It's not just about the fact that I'm always busy!. I don't know if I appear a bit too intimidating with my success!. I was actually in love with a foreign guy last year!. He's really different, I mean deep and shy and caring (a super nice guy type)!. We had a brief but intense relationship but he dumped me!. I want to remain friends but he didn't seem to want to!. I got asked out by a few different guys after that but they turned out to be immature who didn't know what they want!. One of my friends said the older we get the more messed up the dating scene will be!. And I think it's true!. As we work, we'll be more independent and much less attached to other people!. So how do we form the bond the same way we did in high school or college!? It seems like we have to resort to random dating (even online) which I don't like!. I'm excited about all my achievements and everything but I feel this huge hole in my heart!. I need to share my successful life with someone mature and understanding!. I don't wanna turn into this cliche career woman with no life! Is it too soon for me to be depressed over this!?
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I'm 27 and a half, M, and still in college going for my second masters!. I know exactly how you feel!. I haven't had the best record with relationships either!. Like you, I'm no gargoyle, but for some reason I have a hard time meeting women!. I met my first girlfriend when I was about your age and that only lasted for a few months!. I think my biggest problem is finding women that I can feel a connection with!. I like women who are intelligent with goals and dreams who seem to "get" me!. Women whos eyes don't glaze over with boredom when I start to talk with them about my interests!. Unfortunately, most of the women with those traits that I meet have long term goals that conflict with mine!. (The aforementioned girlfriend had plans of going to Cuba for medical school!.!.!.I didn't really want to hold her back!.!.!.there were other reasons I broke up with her, but that was one of them) Otherwise it seems like all the "good ones" are already in relationships!. My suggestion is to avoid settling for some guy just because you're lonely and he's there!. I've met quite a few fantastic women who are in relationships with jerks that don't appreciate their intelligence and capabilities!. It seems to me that they prefer being in a sub par relationship to being lonely!. Personally, I'd rather be alone than be with someone who was completely wrong for me!. Just try not to get too depressed!. There are a lot of other people out there who feel the same way as you!. I know a lot of people get married and have kids when they're younger, but a lot of marriages end in divorce too!. When it comes to relationships, I prefer quality to quantity!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I feel the same! there is no getting over it!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Perhaps you have been placing value upon that which holds none or, at best, only very limited value, such as career success, materialism, the perceptions of others, etc, rather than valuing that which matters more such as truly knowing ones self, seeing that which is for that which it is objectively rather than viewing the same from a distorted subjective perspective!.

As you have been so focused on your physical, material self, seeing life as a competition rather than understanding the oneness of all that exist you have experienced a sense of separateness from others and your relationships have suffered as a consequence of the choices you have made!.

Perhaps it might be wiser to live within the resent moment, the now, and to let the past be the past without clinging to it!. Learn from it but do not be held by it as you can not change it!.

You have chosen that which you want and such desires are the cause of suffering and suffering is the opposite of happiness!.

Now is the time for you to decide that which you truly want and that which will prove to be beneficial to ones self and to all others!.

may it be well with you!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Your problem is that you want a mature , long lasting and true relationship!. It is almost like the wine taster , tasting and grading the wines!. Each one is good in one way and the best is yet to come!.!. After a time he knows that from this vineyard only this good a wine can come !. For even better wines the fertility of the ground has to be different !.
You are just that !. If others cannot match up to your expectation you have to come down to the available level and that is not going to be easy with your very high ego ( I donot mean offense) !. You donot know that equally you will not a guy who is much much better than you that makes you feel inferior! !. Your level!. Your intelligence!. Your kind!. Your temperament!. Everythig relates to YOU YOU YOU YOU!. !.
Try swutching over to US , US for a change !. You will get a good person !. The world is not short of good persons !.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I had no idea of what the future would hold for me romantically when I was 24!. The world is very different now then it once was!. In the 1940's 24 was an old maid!. In the 1960's it was still a young lady, now 24 is like 16 was then!. When you are 30 you will be a young adult and lost of people start marrying at 40 these days!. By the time you are 60, that may be the age when women are STARTING to have kids and also, marriage is a much more independent lifestyle now than in the past, so time on your own will make you a BETTER partner, not a worse one!. Good luck!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

There is no guarantee in life for finding happiness and love, some are blessed with such good fortune, others are not!. Who can say why life is kind to some and less so to others!. Although we'd like to live a well-ordered life with all our needs met, there will always be a vacant spot inside of us not entirely fulfilled!. The reason for this is that we've been searching outwardly and as I say, there's no guarantee on what we get or for how long we are given it!.

One solution is to learn to develop your inner spiritual qualities!. Know what is meaningful to your life and live by it!. For example, if you enjoy classical music you'd like to share this with people who have a similar interest, so perhaps join a study group or take a course on spiritual awakening, things along that line where you can meet likeminded folks and develop friendships on a sound basis!.

If you are seeking love and understanding then begin by giving love and understanding to all who cross your path, in this way you are opening the door to these qualities to enter into your life!. If you are enjoying good fortune in regards to your daily life try sharing it with others too in some altruistic project that benefits those less privileged!.

It's my impression that you need to cultivate the inner you!. Having a career is all well and good but do not neglect the promptings of your soul!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

You seems to be intelligent considering how your career is going, however, most of the times, that is in intimidating for most of the guys, so I would suggest that you avoid making comments on some issues especially when you are sure you are correct, to avoid embarrassment on his part!. Now, the secret of living happy!. Just do what will make you happy, simple as that, use your heart not your mind, your mind will always decides, yes or no, right or wrong, left or right, etc!.!. Now follow your heart and it doesn't matter if its wrong at the end, at least you were happy!. Continue to practice it, and you will be happy everyday!. Be happy, ok!?Www@QuestionHome@Com

Time to drop the pessimism, people can smell it a mile off and it don't smell nice!. Get help for your depression!. No-one on yahoo answers has the solution!. You haven't met the right person yet, so what, who really has at 24!? Your theories on "the older we get the more messed up the dating scene will be!. And I think it's true!. As we work, we'll be more independent and much less attached to other people!. So how do we form the bond the same way we did in high school or college!? It seems like we have to resort to random dating (even online) which I don't like!." are so inaccurate!. If anything, i thought dating was worse when i was younger!. You can not know any of these things for sure!.Www@QuestionHome@Com