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Question: Do you think when you judge another person you do not define them you merely define yourself as someone!?
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yes i think so!. but i think trying to analyze someone and knowing them is ok!. but judging them in a sense of i'm better than them or they are better than the next person or whatever, i don't think is right!. like, sure, you're taller than me, the observation i don't mind!. but considering being taller as inherently better, i would have a problem with!.


I remember once that sums it up nicely, was walking with someone at school and there was thing going on and this guy dancing enthusiastically and a little all over the place, and the person i was walking with said some comment, like 'look at that guy' or something putting him down maybe because they think he dancing wasn't good, or they thought he looked funny or something!.

and so i said to them something like!. - i like it, look at him, this person is having fun, this person does not care what you think of him, he dances freely, and that also means he is probably not the type to judge you!.

you know!? i would rather be non-judgmental person that is carefree of what others think of him, than the judgmental person that is always wondering what others think of them, maybe never dancing and enjoying it because they fear what others think of them, maybe never being able to truly be themselves because they always try to be what they think others think they should be, or is "good" or is "cool" or whatever!. but still, i think everybody must care to a certain extent what others think, i think it is partially the nature of human beings!. so what's stupid is that being judgmental takes away the freedom of others to be who they are, whereas if nobody was judgmental we'd all be more free!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I think it goes beyond that - Emilie Cady, a woman who wrote Lessons in Truth about a hundred years ago, said something like (and I'm paraphrasing miserably): when we judge others, we do it through the aperture of our own experience - our experience in a lens that can only be open according to our knowledge and/or ignorance!.

We define ourselves as ignorant more often than not, because to understand someone and their actions, we would have to have been a witness to their entire life and have first hand knowledge of their thought-process in relationship to everything they've experienced!. That's just not possible!. To judge others, in many ways is just a judgment of ourselves!.

That's my take!. Doesn't mean that in error thinking I don't judge people every now and then!. It's not good - but what can I say!? I'm human!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

I think that when we judge ( measure) anyone we can do so only with the parameters we are equipped with !. Let us say, if I have to judge the height of a mountain I am looking at how would I do it!? Based on our limited knowledge we can make some guess!. That is all!.
So is the case with judging other people!. We judge them with our yardstick of compassion , empathy , love , feelings , suspision etc!. As you say we are actually defining ourselves and searching for these known characteristics in the other person!. If we find them correct we are happy with our ability to assess correctly!. If it it is yet another hit and miss case!.
Mostly we misjudge people initially and as we go along we change our initial judgement!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Nope, unfortunately, other people do in fact pay attention!. The more intelligent ones consider the source and wonder about the possibility of its truth, and think also about the person being judged in order to decide whether or not the judgment has any merit (In the understanding that they may know the person in question differently than the person who is being judgmental!. They also use their assessment of the judgment to further assess the nature of the person delivering the judgment!. Others who listen may be gullible enough to take the judgment for its face value!.
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Even worse, both reactions detailed above display an equally guilty act of judgment!. So even the silent observers are guilty of being judgmental!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

Well observed! We define ourselves by what we define as "other" and how we define it!. So, like everything, it's well worth turning judgments back to front and upside down!. But, having done so, it's sensible and necessary to define how you will respond (not merely react) to all "other"!. That's how we shape our society and the world!. To do less is irresponsible!. But equally, it's stupid not to respond thoughtfully, and intelligently, to the consequences!. Most people simply blame "the others"!. Or, like George Bush, bleat "why do they hate us!?"Www@QuestionHome@Com

very true!.!. although you do not define a person by judging them, it could definitely help them know themselves better!. and furthermore, depending on how they take such criticisms, they will be guided on how to improve themselves!.

there is a saying about the act of "assuming"!.!. (sorry for the vulgarity) it goes like this:
"When you assume, you make an A-S-S out of U and M-E!."

it gets the idea, doesn't it!? :)Www@QuestionHome@Com

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I personally feel that any "judgements" made by a person towards any other person(s) should be in alignment of the guidelines of the moral fiber instilled in us by and through the One Light (God)!.

A person says one thing that's morally upstanding, yet they don't personally show or hold to that moral statement themself!.

A person may follow a certain faith, religion, read the words in scripture, etc!. yet they don't live by or reflect those same guidelines in their own day to day lifes!.

That's being of a hypocrite!.

"Judgements" and / or moral codes of ethics that a person might comment on or reveal!. !. !. those "judgements" and moral codes should be based on the moral Truth of the One Light (God), not society!.

Responsible, nurturing parents set moral codes and guidelines for their children!. So as the One Light (God) messages to us authentic moral codes and guidelines for us, the children of the One Light (God)!.

To truly look and listen within!.!.!.one can't hide from authentic Truth of what the soul / spirit "speaks" the Truth of!.

Authentic "judgments" and moral guidelines are from Word of what the One Light (God) directs to us!.!.!.not from the words of "man"!. "Man" simply reflects the Word of the One Light or not!.

Any "judgements" a person might make should align with the same judgements / guidelines that the One Light (God) reflects to us!.
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I find that when I catch myself judging others it is generally because I am feeling particularly low, very insecure, and a little hopeless!. The judgement is a subconscious way of trying to tell myself "see, you are not that bad after all"!. Of course as soon as I realise what I am doing, I immediately realise how pathetic I am being!.
I try very hard not to judge people!. It is not my place, or my right to!Www@QuestionHome@Com

I think that when we judge others, we are judging them because we need to feel better about ourselves!. We judge others to get a better feeling about life and things in general!. Judging someone is not always bad, it can be good but as long as we do it in our heads and not say it to the persons face!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

i love this question!.

you are an amazing thinker!.
you are completely right!.
there is no reason to judge anyone!.
what you think is fun/good/hot/crazy/etc is not what everyone thinks is fun/good/hot/crazy/etc!. everyone is different and is entitled to their own opinions and what makes them happy!. so there really is no reason to judge!.

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Perception of others is a reflection of self!. It is identification with the other person's characteristics that enables reference and decision!.

Lack of identity causes an indifference or no recognition as if the person is invisible!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

sure our judgments define us… with this non judgmental philosophy you run the risk of another problem… your indecision will become you’re decision… which is no decision at all… doesn’t believe them when they say they don’t judge… furthermore non judgmental philosophies will put you and the ones you care about at risk of harm!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

That makes sense!.
you can learn a lot about yourself by looking at the way you discern others!.
When we judge, I suppose we want everyone to behave they way we do or the way we would like to!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

No, it is human nature to judge, otherwise we would not have the legal system that we have had for a hundreds of years!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I do judge, not the person but what they say or do, would you want a relationship with someone who never learned how to express passion, desire or love!? ; )Www@QuestionHome@Com

I hate judging people and i hate when they judge me! It makes me sick! I feel so inferior to be able to judge someone! I wish there was a world where people wouldn't judge other people! The one who can judge all of us is God!Www@QuestionHome@Com

ooo thats deep rita reaaal deep!.

I'm not being condescending, I'm too busy thinking about far more important things you wouldn't understand!.

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yes, when you judge others you are only portraying yourself as small, petty and insecure!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Yes, exactly!. It is said that we judge those things in other people that we see in ourselves!. I don't judge people nor do I label them?Www@QuestionHome@Com

Very good! I think you've got it!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

in the past few years I learned that judging people is a sign of immaturity!.

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