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Question: Is revenge needed!.!.!.!.!?
My brother severly traumatized me when I was younger, the anger I have for him is so intense, I cant even look at him
I feel like I am dying, I have done alot of damage to myself
I dont think I can take him to court
Does there come a point when revenge is needed, I internalized my anger so long, there is nothing I can say to him, he is such a smug piece of crap and my ***** parents back him up 100% because they are equal pieces of crap as well, if my parents didnt spoil him and love him and allow him to do what he did to me I wouldnt be in the shape I am in now
I spoke to my mother and told her some things and she hung up on my and told me I belonged in a mental home, I was ready to go over there and kill her, I had to restrain myself
Is there a point when revenge is needed, thanks to some injuries I am a lost person and will never find love of my own, I also have other health problems and not sure how much longer I will be around, I dont want to die before my smug family who will probably pretend to care at my funeral and love the sympathy they are recieving
I dont know what to do, I am in therapy and afraid to tell my therapist these things( I was in a mental home once before because I said I felt like killing my brother and dad) I wil most likely be homeless pretty soon as I cant get a job and I wont be able to qualify for disability
I dont know what to do, I dont even care
Is revenge natural!? Is revnege needed!? I think we all interanalize things so much and we have psychology and religion to tell us to look for forgivness, but some things there is just no forgiveness for
If I talk to my brother and he says something to me or calls me a baby or something I will have to murder him, there is no other excuse, I will kill him in cold blood and enjoy it, this is soemthing I should have done years ago or my parents should have done, they should have took him to a child home or something to get him away from me, even then the fear I had for my brother would never go away until he is dead and murdered
There is no healing from this, I thought once I found a love of my own the scars would heal but thanks to an injury I will never find a love of my ownWww@QuestionHome@Com
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:| *Shocked* What did he even do to you!?O!.o *confused*
BTW I don't think revenge is really needed, because then you would be coming to that person's miserable level, and you would just be becoming more like them!. Indifference is betterWww@QuestionHome@Com
Revenge is the most vehemently futile endeavor known to man!. Absolutely unnecessary!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
First tell your therapist EVERYTING! and when ur old enough move RIGHT awayWww@QuestionHome@Com
I don't know what your brother did to you, and I am very sorry for your situation, but I know this, if you keep allowing your brother to have power and control over your life you will not heal, Jesus said My mother brother and son is who does the will of my father in Heaven is my mother, brother, dad, and so on!. This is what I had to apply to my life to move on, because of my own pain and suffering from my family!. Not only did I apply this passage, but I read the book from Anger to Forgiveness By Hazeldan, I also did the work that was suggested!. I am a recovering person of 17 years, so I suggest as well A program of recovery called Emotional Annoymous!. I also needed to find out about sin and how it has such a negative influence in our lives, especially families see satan came to kill steal and destroy and the Bible states that hell has enlarged it's mouth, The Bible helped a lot with dealing with sin, sin it's self is a soul sickness and makes people do barbaric unknown and creepy things to their families, Because people either don't know how to flee temptation or they just don't believe they can a lack of trust belief and a lack of faith, because the heart has not be saved or washed in Gods mercy and grace through his purifying blood, without being washed and saved, the heart is full of all kinds of diversitys hatred, jealousy, adultry, fornication, killings, pride, lust, greed, and many more, now this may not make your heart feel any better now, but sin had found it's way in your brothers and possibly your mothers heart, don't allow it to be a part of your life!. I know what ever happen to you must have cause a great deal of pain, mine did and I had to get counseling myself, but over all I had to forgive and rid myself of deep dark resentments, because of how my life went because of my suffering!. If you will allow God in I am sure he will show you the way to forgiveness, because forgiveness is not for the other person such as your brother or mother, forgiveness is for you forgiveness is not forgetting only God can totaly forget, write all your resentments down pain and all, and pray for all that have caused you misery, pray for them in the name of Jesus, and ask God to deliver you from your pain, as well as to give you strength and power through your temptation!. There is another book called the Roadless Travel Volumes 1&2!. Joyce Meyers has a booked called Beauty for Ashes A woman Minister who Ministers in many diffrent countries, read these books some are recovering books well all in a way!. You want to preserve as much life as you have left for yourself & Heaven and maybe one day I am sure you will if you will let go of your agony!. I understand you are in pain I can't put enough words in this time, in hopeing you believe me and understand!. I had my share of pain from family and many other situations, many are to personal to share with this forum, but if I can get thru so can you, and I am not saying I am totaly healed yet, but I hope to some day, but I have reached a place of somewhat peace, and that's what I hopeing for you!. It aint all peaches and cream, and when I did the work to get better it seemed as though the pain would not ever get better, but it did, however it took a lot of work and belief in God, because that type of hurt does not go away without the mercy and grace of a loving Father in Heaven, so may you find him Now!. Www@QuestionHome@Com
I think revenge isn't the right option!. Two wrongs don't make a right!.
And even in the darkest situations there is hope!. By being angry, you're simply letting him win!.
There's an old saying "he who is angry loses"!. I think in life, we shouldn't let anybody get us angry since it means they control us!. We are the masters of our own lives and nobody else is!. Good luck and you CAN overcome this!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Your hate for your family is very intense, reading these words, I can feel your hatred from in front of my computer
Death is a horrible and tragic thing!.!.!. But why let them off so easy!?
I know this sounds corny and cliche, but from the way I see it, it's the most honest (and BEST) way to take revenge!. Gain social status, become a millionaire, become President, whatever you do, SHOOT HIGH!. Everyone can aim high, but who's ambitious enough to pull the trigger!? No doubt, with your raging passion of hate (unfortunatley), you have so much potential to be whatever to prove that (whatever your family has done to you, whatever behavior they did to you to make you like this) they were simply WRONG!. Make them forever regret everytime they doubted you, mistreated you, hit you, hurt you, ANYTHING by being the best!.
Are you insane!? I'm going to be HONEST, and say you're on virge of insanity!. Insanity is not knowing right from wrong, and killing people (ANYONE) is not definitley not humane!.
However, with your passion and intensity, the best you would be able to do is become the best you can get (and don't doubt yourself that you can't get any better, that would just be humbling yourself) and PROVE THEM WRONG BY BECOMING BETTER THAN THEM!.!!! <------------I can't stress that enoughWww@QuestionHome@Com
Dude, I don't want to tell you to calm down!. I don't even trust you to make up your mind about doing what you want to do!. Some therapist isn't gonna help either!. I'd say do what you feel is right, but that wouldn't be right either!. Hate to say it and NO offense but you might be a lost cause!.Www@QuestionHome@Com