Forgive but not forget?

Question: Forgive but not forget!?

Do you think there is such a thing,or do you think that the person/s does not really forgive!? Your opinions very welcome!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

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Forgive is a decision!. Forget is not!. Definitely possible to forgive but not forget!. But to say you don't forget is not to say you sulk or continue to bring it up!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Absolutely, forgive but possibly not forget!

I might be able to forgive the criminal for stealing from me!. But that does not mean I am going to ask him to carry my wallet!.

Just like I can forgive someone for saying something mean to me because they were drunk and have a drinking problem, but I am not going to invite them into situations where they will drink--for both our sakes!.

Forgiveness is not a synonymn for amnesia nor does it mean instant regained trust!.

Forgiveness means that I will let go of the anger and the need for retaliation!. If it's within a relationship where trust is necessary, trustworthiness may need to be proved!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

Forgive but not forget!? It's very clear
that this isn't forgiveness at all!. The key component in forgiving is
forgetting!. If every time you get into a dispute or an argument with
a person and either one of you happens to bring up an issue or issues
which were said to have been forgiven!.!.then guess what!? Somebody
wasn't exactly being honest!. Because if something still hurts or effects
you in any possible way, you have not forgiven the other person for it!.
There is a major difference between saying you've forgiven someone and in actually having done so!.

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I think depending on the situation, forgiving is such a hard thing to do!. Some people feel like they have been hurt so bad that to forgive someone means that they are giving permission to the person to do it again!.

I think it takes a truly strong person to forgive, and forget and move on with life!. We have a memory for a reason, and we will always remember what it is the person did to us!. But I think we have to come to terms with ourselves to want to get past this event!. If we do not forgive it can grow inside of us, and tear us down!. That is why people need to forgive others for their faults, but then pick yourself back up and grow from the experience!. And know that you cannot control people, they are going to act as they will, and do things that we might not approve of!. In the end of the day you cannot let others "steal your thunder!." I call thunder - my happiness!.

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I personally don't think it is good to 'forget' things that have happened in life!. Rather, just accept that it did happen and move on (that is part of the forgiveness as well)!.

Pretending something never happened won't help anyone, because for one you can pretend all you want but you still know it happened!. Www@QuestionHome@Com

People have this funny notion about forgiveness; that it has something to do with making the transgression "okay" or letting things pass or something like that!.

Forgiveness is simply the choice to stop being pissed off about whatever happened!. That's it!. "I will no longer poison my life with resentment about [whatever it was]!." Once that's handled, one can make a clear decision about what to do next!. There are many instances when forgetting the cause of injury is a very bad idea!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I don't think forgiving is a very natural thing to do!. And I don't think forgeting is either!.
Forgiving in my opinion is not possible without first understanding or changing your opinion!. If you change your mind and since decide that you believe the person is right, then I think forgiving is possible!. But if you remain convinced that they were in the wrong and you are right, forgiving in my opinion is not possible!.
Its quite difficult to explain but instinct tells me that I'm right!.
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I think depending on what is to be forgiven it is possible but may take some time!. Forgetting it i find very close to impossible!. One can get over "something" but you can't erase the memory!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Forget makes it easy to forgive, but it is not a requirement - I don't think!.

Then again, it does not make sense for someone to not forget after he/she has forgiven the fault at hand!. It sure raises some suspicions!.!.
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Its easy to forgive, because forgiving is a choice!.

But forgetting is not a choice!.
You can't just make yourself forget something that hurt you deeply!.
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ego's store all emotions and events to use at its will to keep you serving it!.

the truth is that there is nothing to forget or forgive!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Forgiving happens when we stop being emotionally affected by the memories of a traumatic event, that doesn't mean that you don't remember it!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Pretty 1,

It takes a man to never forgive, but it takes a woman to never forget!! PERIOD!!Www@QuestionHome@Com