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Question: If you were someone a year ago, are you that person for life!?
i used to cut a lot!. and i quit now!. but i still think about it alot!. ive stopped for about half a year now!. and i dont think im going to start up agian!. but i was watching tv today and this gurl said "i used to cut, and i could stop for fifty years, but ill always be a cutter!. its who i am!. if your something once, its who you are for life" and well my friends were talking one time and someone said "once a cheater, always a cheater" but i disagree with that!. what do u think!? in general, if you were someone once, are you that for life!?Www@QuestionHome@Com
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I dont think people change!.
Sure, you adapt, you get better at life, you learn and change your habits!.!.!. but you cant really change your desires or your personality!.
Even psychologist agree with that!. People change under two circumstances!.!.!. one, they force themselves, consciously, to change their habits!. It changes their outward appearance only!.!.!. and becomes almost natural!. Eventually not even conscious!. But just a programmed superimposed trait!.!. on top of the real garbage that is you!.
People also change if there is a drastic, emotionally strong event in their life that shocks them into a realization!.
So no, I dont think people really ever change!. They say they do, they would like to believe they do!.!.!. they may even live and act differently!.!.!. but it eats at their soul deep down, being fake, being forced to change for one reason or another, be it a social or romantic or emotional blackmail!.
That is why I judge people based on their past!. You have to judge and assess people somehow!. You cant judge someone for their body and looks!.!.!. but you can for their personality!. And their history is the best way to know their personality!. What they did in their past shows their past habits, their actions and reactions, their rationalizations!.
People can be fake in the now!. They can have fanciful dreams for the future!. But no amount of pleading or acting or dreaming overrides their past!.!.!. which is a perfect indicator for how they will continue to act and be in the future if pressed!.
Whatever changes a personality makes is superimposed on top of the old!. The old is still there, acting as the foundation to everything that came after!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
people change, if you are a cutter that means you are currently using self mutilation!. I use to be a cutter about 4 years ago!. I still remember every time i had hurt myself, i still think about it, but that doesnt make me a cutter!. it is just part of my past!. If people use to smoke but quit a while ago they dont continue saying that they are smokers they simply say they use to smoke but quit!. i think it is the same with cutting!. Im glad you stopped, things will only get better for you, trust me i know, ive been there!.
good luck ;)Www@QuestionHome@Com
god, no! you are not the same person you were yesterday for that matter!. no, no, no!. once a whatever, always a whatever is a lie!. i've been a lot of stupid things in my life and i am changing who i was!. i choose to be different every day!. i choose to be a better person and a new person every day than i was yesterday!. saying i'll always be the same would limit me, so no, i wouldn't say that!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Briefly NO! Do you still wear nappies etc!? Or suck your thumb!? Throughout life we can learn and change, for good (if it enhances life for ourselves and others) or for ill (if it doesn't)!. Life is learning what you can make of it!. Go for it!. That entails being creative (which requires courage), not destructive (which is the coward's way of expressing impotence)Www@QuestionHome@Com
Yes!.!.!.
Don't confuse "person" with "personality!."
The person is the "Self" (Eastern philosophies call it "Atman" or "the silent witness!.")
The personality is in a constant state of change due to thoughts and interaction with the rest of the world!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
I once was a "someone"!.!.!.!.a no one!?! I had an addiction!? Cutting!.!.!.Drugs!? Does it matter what one does to kill ones pain!? NO!?! Pain is allowed within oneself that allows others to bestow upon ourselves what would never be if our hearts were not as big as they were!?! Forgive yourself for whom you were!. Let it go/!. Move on and you as I have will be the better of ALL that can be!?!@Www@QuestionHome@Com
no not at all !.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.life is based on change and so was evolution !.!.!.!.if there is no change everything would be the same !.!.!.!.!.!.life is unpridictable and so is your soul !.!.!.!.!.!.
just go with the flow and you are never the same !.!.!.!.!.sometimes situations change you but other times your destiny changes you!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
People can change!.
And I will give you such ridiculous and obvious proof that you'll have to believe me: Just because you picked your nose as a kid, doesn't mean you'll always be a nose-picker!. ^_^ Unless, you know, you are; but I doubt it!. ^^Www@QuestionHome@Com
let your past not decide your future but guide you i use to cut too!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
No because as we grow, we change!. Do you still do or like the same things when you were 6!? 10 or 12!? No as you get older you find out things are different than you perceived them to be (your less afraid to try something new) and that is how you gain experience!. By trying, liking it and adapting it into your habits or lifestyle!. Its the same about things that are detrimental to us!. Once we find out that something is bad, smoking, drugs excessive drinking, bad company (who get us into trouble) we either learn that, that is harmful to my health or well being and we make changes for the better!.
The one who I know who gives the strenght to make a change is Jesus!. Romans 10;9 and he gets in and cleans you up (gradually) that people will sense something is different about you!. Try him for yourself!.Www@QuestionHome@Com