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Question: Are you a loser if you keep attracting losers!?
What's going on here!? I keep attracting guys without a life goal, although I have definite goals and plans for education and embettering myself!. Fact 1: I am a very open-minded person!. Fact 2: I'm looking at people's hearts, not looks or status!. Result: I keep attracting losers or guys without ambition!. Conflict: I have a lot of ambition but maybe I spent too much time on Youtube (yes I did for 2 weeks listening to music) when i met him online!?! Did I just happen to be where the losers are!?Www@QuestionHome@Com
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How are you defining "loser"!? You say you are open-minded and that you look at peoples hearts, not looks or status!. Then you go on to say you attract losers or guys without ambition!. If you are open-minded, why do you care!? Or do you mean that you don't mind if they are losers, so long as they want to improve themselves!? Or did you mean that you don't mind if they are losers or that they lack ambition, but you are wondering why you aren't attracting guys who have goals, guys who aren't losers!?
If it's that you are wondering why you aren't attracting guys with ambition, guys who aren't losers, it's because it takes time!. Firstly, there are more losers than winners, and even more who are neither winners nor losers!. Secondly, many women won't give a loser a chance, she will prefer a winner, but will take someone who is average who isn't a loser!. Because you give losers a chance, they are going to be attracted to you - you don't immediately reject them like other women!. Good, confident, single men that are looking for a relationship don't stay single for very long, and so are harder to get!. Next up for grabs are the average single men - you can get one of these guys if you put in a bit of effort!. Then there are the confident losers - these guys are losers but they keep trying and so will often get some women, then there are the shy men (who may want a relationship, but tend not to be the pursuer - this is the best group to get a man from, because you can find handsome and intelligent, successful guys here, but there is less competition!.), finally there are the shy losers!. One thing to note is that both shy men and shy losers tend to be less shy and more forward when online!. They will initiate contact when normally they would not!. Online is a great way to meet new people, but you have to be discriminating or willing to accept losers!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Maybe it is not that you are a loser!. Maybe because you are open and non-judgmental, and intent on bettering yourself, losers see you as a person who can be useful to them!. Maybe they see you as someone they can persuade to take care of them!. It is good to be open minded, but it is important to avoid people who want to use you!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
no, you are one of the good ones!.!. 1) open minded 2) look at peoples hearts!.!. hence you dont "swat" losers away fast enough for your own good!.!.!. because you are open minded etc!.!.
forget about life goals with guys!.!.!. thats not a loser, a loser is a guy that wants to take you down with him!! or stalk you, or bury you underneath the floor boards etc!. i have met (if only by association ALL OF THE ABOVE!!)Www@QuestionHome@Com
No it means you need a new picker, that is a new way to find someone of your caliber, don't down yourself pray about it! and may receive what you believe!Www@QuestionHome@Com
like my highschool teacher says "Birds of a feather, flock together"
its not who you attract its who you stick with!. "tell me who your friends are, and ill tell you who you are"Www@QuestionHome@Com
Well, the first thing you want to do is not meet guys on the internet!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
Sweety!. Take it from me the guy only has one thing on his mind: Add me as a buddy and we'll go online together!. It's a common problem with young ppl today (or so they told me)!.
I say go for it!. Later haters!!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
opposites do not attract, like minded people doWww@QuestionHome@Com
I am a loser and I'm not attracted to you!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
your not a loser!. you're just naive!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
No!. You're a loser if you can attract no one!.Www@QuestionHome@Com
your saying 'I'm looking at people's hearts, not looks or status!.' but your complaining your attracting people without a life goal! why does everyone need to have a life goal!?!?!?
if your so desperate you need to meet people from the net then im afraid your the one with the problems
you sound like a sad person!
I dont share the same goals as my girlfriend, shes been working hard on her career recently, i worked in the same industry from 17-27 years old, now im relaxing, moving from job to job without a care but it doesnt make her disrespect me in any way, because shes focused on her career doesnt mean i have to be! Sounds to me your only looking for someone with a well paying job!Www@QuestionHome@Com