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Please be honest or at least open-minded (good or bad answers is fine)!. My friend is trying to conquer his approach anxiety!.!.meaning he wants to talk to strangers b/c he is wants to be more social!. So he comes up to strangers on the street and asks them to reject him!. Thats it!.!. reject him!.!. what do you think!? Please be honest!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

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I must say that for one i am very proud of you're friend for having the curage to, # 1, face up to his fear and anxiety of strangers!. And # 2, that he could with stand the rejection from others, ( although he *is* asking for it!) I think that he is very brave, and I do happen to know a little about it and have reaserched it before, so here's some information to help shed some light to the reason he may have for asking to be rejected!.Anxiety for one, is a common and normal occurrence!. However, a chronic, high level of anxiety indicates an anxiety disorder!.
Some of the more common anxiety disorders include:
Generalized Anxiety Disorder: A person with generalized anxiety disorder experiences persistent and excessive anxiety or worry that lasts at least six months!.
Specific Phobia: A person who has specific phobia experiences intense anxiety when exposed to a particular object or situation!. The person often avoids the feared object or situation because of a desire to escape the anxiety associated with it!.
***Social Phobia***: A person who has social phobia experiences intense anxiety when exposed to certain kinds of *social or performance situations*!. As a result, the person often avoids these types of situations!.
Panic Disorder and Agoraphobia: A person with panic disorder experiences recurrent, unexpected panic attacks, which cause worry or anxiety!. During a panic attack, a person has symptoms such as heart palpitations, sweating, trembling, dizziness, chest pain, and fear of losing control, going crazy, or dying!. Panic disorder can occur with or without agoraphobia!. Agoraphobia involves anxiety about losing control in public places, being in situations from which escape would be difficult or embarrassing, or being in places where there might be no one to help if a panic attack occurred!.Neurotransmitters: Researchers believe there is a link between anxiety disorders and disturbances in neural circuits that use the neurotransmitters GABA and serotonin!. Serotonin is associated with poor impulse control and with the tendency to engage in violent and aggressive behavior, and has been found to exist in deficient levels in individuals who have attempted suicide, though I doubt that you're friend has done so!. GABA limits nerve cell activity in the part of the brain associated with anxiety!. People who do not produce enough GABA or whose brains do not process it normally may feel increased anxiety!. Inefficient processing of serotonin may also contribute to anxiety!. I for one on a more personal note into my thoughts as to why he does this " ask and reject" sort of thing is perhaps because he is still insucure when or if that person really does want to get to know him!. Or if that person would reject him in the first place in his mind perhaps he just wants to beat them to it or do it for them sort of speak!. I hope I shead a bit of light on you're friend and on why he may be doing this, and I for one I do *not* think he is *crazy* if you would like to know, he's just a little misguided as we all are at some points, ; )

Always with up most honesty,
~Briar~Www@QuestionHome@Com

I think that's either crazy or genius!. It sounds like he wants to toughen himself up by being rejected over and over again until he gets used to it and lo he won't be anxious anymore!.

The only problem with his plan is !.!.!.!.it's not real!. Strangers you don't care about won't cause anxiety as people he would really care about what they would think of him!.

Everyone is at least a little anxious when you meet someone new or really anxious if it is a future mate! I think he needs to conquer his anxiety before he approaches people!.

ie: learn to chill!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

good on him for trying its a pity hes going about it the wrong way though, tell him to take it a bit more casual, don't go up to people, start by acknowledging people on the street 'hello how are you' 'can you tell me the way to!.!.!.!.' this way hes engaging them in a conversation and giving hI'mself a bit of confidence instead of frightening them to death or thinking hes a nutter, he will get better as his confidence grows, aw luv im!. lolWww@QuestionHome@Com

My first thought is why would you walk up to a stranger and ask them to reject you!. The Stranger will most likely wonder what in the world is wrong with this guy!. If he is trying to conquer anxiety, instead of asking people to reject him, why doesnt he just put himself in more situations that require him to face his anxiety, join a club!. Go help someone, volunteer to do a speech!. Find who he really is!. Gain Confidence!. Surround himself with friends, and people who are relatable, that itself sometimes makes the situation more relaxing!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Actually, the fact that he can even do that much takes conquering a certain amount of fear!. If that's what it takes to get the ball rolling, I suppose it's not as bad as it could be!. But honestly, if he can rustle up the nerve to do that, he might make more progress using it in other ways - like trying to get people to -accept- him, instead!.

But without outright asking them to accept him - rather, with conversation and chit chat and the like!.

Very intriguing situation!. :-!?Www@QuestionHome@Com

Well it's kind of odd to go up to someone and ask them to reject them!. If someone did that to me i would feel alittle weird about it!. Maybe he can just go up and try to talk to them!. And sometimes he will get rejected, and sometimes he won't be!. He has to learn to deal with all the outcomes!.

but i think it's great that he's trying to overcome it!.

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I think your friend needs to re-evaluate what are his motives!. Good on him for seeing a negative pattern and making positive changes however I don't understand why he wants to be rejected!? Surely it is the same as having a phobia of say spiders and then going out to be bitten by them, surely that would just enhance the negative perception of why you are frighten of spiders!. If your mate had set himself the goal of conquering his approach anxiety then surely looking for a pleasant, positive response of 'hello' back or even just eye contact and a smile would have a far more positive impact on his approach!.
What ever happens!.!.the best of luckWww@QuestionHome@Com

interestingly weird approach!. i don't think it's something i would encourage!.!.!. it seems a little like trying to de-sensitize by over-exposure and by-passing important elements of the socialising process!. i think your friend will learn something about himself from the experiment but i have my doubts as to how meaningful and valuable those lessons will be!. it's also, potentially, high-risk!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I think its a big joke on his part!.!.!.!.yours as well!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.The best thing is too go shopping then try to mingle with other shoppers!.!.!.!.you're at a counter!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. ask another customer for advice after pretending to be in a dilemma about an item!.!.!.if they don't answer you are rejected!.!.!.!.almost nobody will reject you!.!.!.point!? He rejects himself more than others!.!.!.!. Other point!? good bait on the fishing line!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

well!.!.!.um least he is trying but someone is bound to think he is crazy!. I don't think it is a good ideaWww@QuestionHome@Com

I would probably look at him like he was crazy!.Www@QuestionHome@Com