Trust and respect?

Question: Trust and respect!?

How do you decide who to trust and respect and who to dismiss!?

When you meet someone for the first time is your "natural" instinct to trust UNTIL they prove to be untrustworthy

OR

do you NOT trust until they prove themselves to be trustworthy!?

How do you decide who to respect!?

Do you respect everyone unless they show themselves to be an ********!?

Or

do you not give then your respect until they earn it!?Www@QuestionHome@Com

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker:

The Golden Rule used to be, originally:
Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you!.
Now, it is:
Do unto others, 'before' it's done to you!
I give everyone the benefit of the doubt, until they prove to be otherwise!. Each person you meet is a new and totally different person!. If you don't give them the same opportunity as you did the other guy, you will never know that they could have been a really great guy!. When it's your turn and you really want to make every effort to build a meaningful relationship, You may get the same medicine that you have dished out to someone else!. Nobody likes rejection!.
Respect must be earned!. It stands on an individual's integrity!. Respect and trust go hand in hand!. Trust is the basic foundation in any relationship!. But we must give each person the opportunity to show their credibility as a human being!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I can't trust and respect a person that I don't know so I suppose I would have to say that those things are known in time!.!.!.sometimes it takes a long time to trust a person!.
Respect is way too difficult to explain,it's more of a feeling for me!.A person that I can trust and respect is so special and someone to cherish greatly!.

I dismiss people who disrespect me or make me feel uncomfortable,and found that this is easier to do as I get older!.When I was young I was disillusioned with people like this and found it hard to cut them out of my life without pain,now I realize that I was wasting time with the rocks when I could have been hanging with a pearl!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I know a big guy 6ft 3, whos a selfish user!.
No one ever says no to him, he always gets what he wants, cos hes intimidating!.
Im a 5ft 8 guy, that tries to do the right thing and will always put myself out if i see someone suffering!.
Everyone always says no to me, i never get what i ask of others!.
because of this i have developed a trust no-one attitude!.
I have had to work hard to achieve the smallest goal!.
I have had to rely on myself and no one else!.
But if someone shows themself to be my friend, i an the most loyal friend a person could have!.
Now i always say no to the big guy!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I always think the best of someone until they prove untrustworthy!. even then I'll find excuses for them!. I like to see the best in people - I can't imagine assuming the worst before i've got to know them

with respect - on a very basic level I respect everyone but i do believe that respect has to be earned and you can't just demand itWww@QuestionHome@Com

I think you start off with a basic trust and then you learn to either trust that person or distrust them!. It has to be about response and cause and effect!. Although in my experience there are those who conceal very well their ability to be a DOWN STAIRS orifice!.

I think different people have different levels of trust depending on how well you know them!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Show respect to everyone and trust noone!. If people expect you to respect them, consider whether they have done anything to earn that respect!.
Likewise, if someone asks you to trust them, consider what they have demonstrated to you to place trust in them!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Understanding the frailty, fears and insecurities of human nature makes auto allowances for the fallibility of humanity!.

This understanding then liberates mankind from holding such oppressing and socially debilitating fears, and creates a peaceful demeanour that naturally allows and inspires others to be open and frank in their communications!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Initially I Respect almost everyone and Trust almost no one!. I don't make those decisions permanently until I know them!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

i have got a natural instinct of recognising people !.!.!.!.!.!.but when u like someone very much !.!.!.!.u dont care for being cheated even if u know this !.!.!.!.yet i catch people from the words they speak or from their actions!.!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

You can trust anybody but remember there are always limitations!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Trust and respect are earned, not given!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I am an innocent!. I ALWAYS trust people!. Always have done and always will!. If they choose to betray my trust, then that is their problem, not mine!Www@QuestionHome@Com

I follow my instincts about people!.!.!. they are usually right!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

With common sense!.Www@QuestionHome@Com