Have you ever held on to anger to avoid dealing with a more painful emotion?

Question: Have you ever held on to anger to avoid dealing with a more painful emotion!?
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You ask some really poignant questions!. As you know my wife expired and I am severely heartbroken!. So much so that it seems that it seems that it is all that I can relate to you!. Am I angry that this had happened , of course do I dwell on it (probably not too healthy for my well being), in a word yes!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Interesting question!. I am careful to discern anger from hate, but I can't say I think it wise to think myself a chooser for something which the powers of will has not to effect or affect but a wish for power!. If a paining emotion is akin to the pains of hunger, then perhaps they have their pleasure likewise connected to them, but their residue in memory makes possible the notion that such needs are not worth repeating!. I don't think I would say the same for hunger for good taste!. If a notion that an other would take that which would be my will, realized its self in my mind, and such an emotion is induced or illicited by the willful actions of that other, then I should prefer anger if it robbed that robber of my property, my will!.

'"Not to forgive is to be imprisoned by the past, by old grievances that do not permit life to proceed with new business!. Not to forgive is to yield oneself to another's
control!.!.!. to be locked into a sequence of act and response, of outrage and revenge, tit for tat, escalating always!. The present is endlessly overwhelmed and devoured by the past!. Forgiveness frees the forgiver!. It extracts the forgiver from someone else's nightmare!.": - Lance MorrowWww@QuestionHome@Com

Yes, for awhile, I would hold on too much resentment and anger (all masked in my passive-aggresive nature) to feel better (to feel some sense of power, I assume), and avoid sorrow!. While I still tend to gravitate towards that, I have depression (according to my counselor, I should be on anti-depressants, which I still feel afraid of using, out of my fear of climbing out of this hole); I tend to wallow in self-pity and despair, conciously and subconciously depending on it (liking this), like I said, afraid to leave this despair and resenting happiness!. How ironic I first realized my depression while reading the bible (when I was still a christian), when I'm now an atheist!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

No!. Anger is a crutch, albeit a temporary crutch, a short "fix" for a deeper hurt, and pain!.

I find it easier to show anger like most of all of us!. The others , such as sorrow and grief is too open and bleeding!. The scab and hardness of anger is a shield, one can hide behind it!.

Only for a short time!. Then you have to begin to heal your soul!. That is hard, and for some even impossible!.

May God in his mercy look down on your pain and heal it, May the blessings be!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I have two things in life I can't seem to get rid of; my teddy bear and my anger!. Although I'm not sure why I'm angry!. Years of therapy haven't helped!. Maybe I'm angry at my teddy bear!. Now that would be a quandry wouldn't it!.!.!.!.!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

oh absolutely!. anger is an easier emotion to deal with that some of the "softer" emotions, like depression!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Yes, it's like putting up walls to protect yourself!.!.!.sometimes it's easier to just be mad than it is to be sad or depressedWww@QuestionHome@Com

Yes!.!.!. It's always been easier that way!. And that's kind of a problem that I have and need to fix!. =(
If only people knew!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

definataly!. anger is much more tolerable then pain!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Yes!. At times, my anger helps me to hold back my tears!.

It's difficult to cry!. I've wait for the rain!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

no
i have never done anything significant in my lifeWww@QuestionHome@Com

Yes!. I don't recommend it!.Www@QuestionHome@Com