Is love even suppossed to last forever?

Question: Is love even suppossed to last forever!?

I have a friend that is 32 that has dated (married 1) 4 men in 12 years for four years each!. She says that she read that biological lust last that long because by the age of four children are more independent and do not need both parents!. She also said that our body will only really oxytocin(the love hormone) for four years with the same person!. I thought it was always released during sex!. I think shes full of crap and just doesnt want to admit that she gets tired of a man after 4 years!. Any thoughts/opinions!?Www@QuestionHome@Com

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Anthropology speaking your friend is correct!. The hormone that is released when you are around a person that makes your heart go thump, will only last about 4 years!. For the exact reason your friend stated, the children at age 4 are not so dependent on their moms!.!.!.!. But, that is hard to write songs about, the mystical force of love is much better for stories and songs!.!.!. and uhm, poetryWww@QuestionHome@Com

Read her Shakespeare's sonnet 116

SONNET 116
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments!. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken!.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom!.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved!.

In general there are different kinds of love, but the highest, most true form is forever and is unchangeable because it does not depend on any one person or 'favorable' circumstances!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Love with the senses (smell, taste, touch, see) is short term that oxytocin will form resistance to !.!.!. that's why it's commonly know that lust "ebbs & flows" at it's own will!. This kind of sensual love usually is attached to "addicts" who you'll find that they seek not only lust, but other chemical "high's" as well like adernilene, tabbaco, alcohal, food, drugs (cocain, ect)!.!.!. basically, they're rewarding their short term behavior!.

The other type of love, filio, is long term!. Dolphins have been studied (as they mate for life) and they form another form of oxytocin in the brain which is more towards the seritonin instead of domamine!. These dolphins ususally die withing 6 months of thier spouse dying!. So, there is another love, and within this love the lust will "ebb & flo" but, the bond is eternal if you dare to let the love blossum that far!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

I really don't know about your friend, her theory sounds a bit flaky in my opinion, however, I do not necessarily think love lasts forever!.!.!.!.although that depends on how you are interpreting love, is it simply romantic love you speak of!? Infatuation!.!.!.!.!.lust, those things dissipate as time passes, really loving someone in a marriage / long term relationship) would be continuing to love them once those other aspects fade to a certain degree!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

Well, I don't know how religious you are (because I'm not overly as some are), but in the bible I believe that it talks about how God makes one person for each of us to spend our entire life with!. I think she either has commitment issues or hasn't found that person and is scared that she won't so she makes excuses!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

shes full of crap!.
i believe that once you find your one and only true love, the love will never end!. and yes i believe EVERYONE has a soul mate :]

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Well, that four years thing is full of crap!. I think somebody can be in love much longer than that!. However, I don't think love is supposed to last forever!. I'm a believer in multiple!.!.!.true loves!. Although I don't much like thinking about romance stuff at all!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

She's partially full of crap!. Love is a chemical reaction and it doesn't last that long by itself, but people are capable of making it continue for a long time!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

TRUE LOVE is not just about the lusty attachment feelings!. It's about choosing to put some one first always and love them even when you don't like them!.

And children need both parents through out their entire lives!Www@QuestionHome@Com

Love is not always supposed to last forever!. That's ridiculously idealistic!.

However, there are those people we love where the love is supposed to and does last forever!.

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She likes to play the field!. and yes she is full of crap!.Www@QuestionHome@Com

sounds like she hasn't found "the one"Www@QuestionHome@Com

Love is nature's way of tricking us into pro-creation! lolWww@QuestionHome@Com

Like any question about love, the answer is always yes and no in my opinion!. Simply because there is no defined and determined rule about love!. Well, in th case of your friend , I think she is mistaken!. And I want to point out that I soon as a relationship ends , it's not love anymore and never was!. It's what I think anyway!. I kinda believe in true love!. So of course love is supposed to last forever if it's a true love and meant to be!. My grandma and grandpa (died 6 years ago) loved each others for more than 40 years until one day he died after a heart surgery!. I grew up in their house and they gave me a good recipe of what marriage and any relationship based on love should be!. They are not perfect but they faced all the challenges together!. I remember how my grandpa used to grab her hand, tease her and kiss her from time to time!. I felt that it was ridiculous at that time and I used to blush and they laugh at me!So I guess the hormones never died! lol it's all about how to fuel that love in the course of time and never let that flame die!.!.!.Hope you see my point!.
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