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Question:if thats the word, like i dont even know if i am or not, i dont even know what to believe when it comes out of my mouth, i cant even trust my own memories, any help will be greatly appreciated
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Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: if thats the word, like i dont even know if i am or not, i dont even know what to believe when it comes out of my mouth, i cant even trust my own memories, any help will be greatly appreciated
if you wanna talk about it h2_lvr14@Hotmail.com

There are 2 kinds of liars eaverson. Pathological and compulsive. Here is the difference between them:

A pathological liar is usually defined as someone who lies incessantly to get their way and does so with little concern for others. Pathological lying is a coping mechanism developed in early childhood and it is often associated with some other type of mental health disorder. A pathological liar is often goal-oriented (i.e., lying is focused - it is done to get one's way). Pathological liars have little regard or respect for the rights and feelings of others. A pathological liar often comes across as being manipulative, cunning and self-centered.

It sounds to me like you are more a compulsive liar. A compulsive liar is someone who lies out of habit. Lying is their normal and reflexive way of responding to questions. Compulsive liars bend the truth about everything, large and small. For a compulsive liar, telling the truth is very awkward and uncomfortable while lying feels right. Compulsive lying is usually thought to develop in early childhood, due to being placed in an environment where lying was necessary. For the most part, compulsive liars are not overly manipulative and cunning as are Pathological Liars. They simply lie out of habit - an automatic response which is hard to break and one that takes its toll on a relationship.

Compulsive lying is one of the hardest habits to break unfortunately, but it can be done. It takes a LOT of counseling and a true willingness to stop. You must decide to do this ... because if you don't you will eventually end up alone and empty with no one in your life at all because no one can take a liar for long. Trust me I know ... I made the mistake of marrying one and it was a horrible situation. I'm glad I had the strength to get away from him. I only hope he's found the strength to straighten out his life. I hope that you, too, will do the same.

Peace to you ...

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You are quite welcome. I hope that you seek help before it worsens because you can get help for this. I wish you the best. Peace to you ...

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maybee you just have a reallly bad memory and you dont trust your head???
idk be more confident in what you say

most of us are not liars, pathological or otherwise. when we misspeak if is often simply because our perceptions of life like life itself is always in flux, changing and adapting to new realities. Because what we say and think are not a truth only means that you have misspoke. We once thought the world was flat but that was before we had learned it was not. Before I had language to express the strangeness of creation I too perhaps thought it was flat.

You got to get out of the habit of lying or it can really damage you psychologically.

You know when you tell a lie when the truth would do just as well.
It is possible to tell the truth and be proven wrong. You didn't lie, you just remembered it wrong. It happens to people all the time.

We lie for two reasons: 1) we lie when the truth is inconvenient (for reasons of tact, for example) and 2) to protect ourselves (if we are ashamed of our job or our possessions or if you need to mislead someone, we would lie). Now, pathological or chronic lying is a mental disorder, so let's avoid any medical diagnosis. You may be lying because you need to protect yourself for some reason. You need to see if your lies follow a certain pattern, such as you are lying about your job, or your appearance, or your family. Such patterns of lies would suggest a low sense of esteem about a part of your life that you need to address.

However, if you find that you are lying about everything (especially at times when the truth is more convenient), then you may need to talk to a counselor or a therapist.

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