What would you perfer?

Question:Someone who says the blunt truth to your face or someone who talks behind you back (Ignorance is bliss) without you knowing?

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: Someone who says the blunt truth to your face or someone who talks behind you back (Ignorance is bliss) without you knowing?

I think the key word in your question is the word "blunt". I believe that everyone who answered your question so far assumes that the person who speaks the truth bluntly to my face is telling me something awful about myself.

If I lead a life of peace and wisdom, then what could someone possibly say bluntly to my face that I would not want to hear? That type of statement does not exist.

And if someone wishes to bluntly inform me of something that others may find embarrassing, I simply remind myself that embarrassment is a feeling that lasts for exactly two seconds...every subsequent feeling is simply my remembrance of the moment. So I stop replaying the "embarrassing" moment in my head, and it's gone.

So that's the long answer.

The short answer is that I'd prefer the blunt truth told to my face because I'm a philosopher...I've been searching for the blunt truth my whole life.

I hope that someday someone will tell it to me.

A friend that I can trust can say anything.

TRUTH TO MY FACE . IT WOULD BE HARD .

Tell me to my face

Blunt to my face. Then I can deal with what ever they are saying when they say it.

talks behind my back . why would i wanna hear the truth all the time and in a rude way! id rather not know and live happily

Blunt to my face.

Someone who talks behind your back is just LOW. Like come on, if you got something to say get some BALLS and say it.

The truth but not in a blunt fashion .

Someone with the consideration and enough tact to tell me the truth in a kind and discreet way (classy people are like that).
Example
Person-"Excuse me but please come over here right away."
You- "Why? Whats wrong? Can I help you?"
Person-" you must have stepped on something in the washroom, You are dragging three feet worth of toilet paper"
You- "Gaaaahhh"

Backstabbers are of course a pain in the neck but they are useful in their own way. They are harmless gossips that make and break celebrities.

People who tell you the truth to your face may have their own agenda, they want to insult you ( you have an underarm odor enough to make an entire busload of people faint) or demoralize you ( your singing voice is too out of tune and it causes thunder and lightning because even the thunder gods cant stand listening to you sing)

Yes, Ignorance is strength (1984, George Orwell) but when it comes to my trust I don't want to be strong... I would rather have someone who can hurt me face-to-face than someone who can stub my back...

i guess someone talking behind your back. what you don't know can't hurt you

the truth.
i realize that i would hurt to hear, but its better to hear it in the end. and in the end, if someone was talking behind my back it would eventually get to me so why not just get it over with?

I would rather have someone talk about me behind my back; I don't like being confronted with my own inadequacies by anyone but my mom, my sister, and my boss. The rest are without.

The first one so I can pay back.

Use of second person for ease of discussion. It's morning. I'm tired.

Tell me to my face. If you have the strength to let me know directly what you believe to be the truth, I'll have respect for you. I have the right to agree or disagree with and I'm usually reasonable enough to consider the aspects of your argument before presenting my own or accepting yours.

If you speak behind my back, I can't address the issue. When I find out, I'll lose respect for you (and chances are, I'll find out). Trust will be lost and I'll be unwilling to look at your argument due to the loss of trust. Most of all, I'll cut you out of my life. I don't go for manipulative people and backstabbing is manipulation. The people you've talked to probably don't respect you either because they understand that if you'll talk about me when I'm not present, you'll do the same to them.