Why do we sabotage ourselves?

Question:Its bad enough when others are being negative about what we can do, but why do our minds sometimes tell us that we can't do something? It then becomes a negative self-fulfilling prophecy.

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: Its bad enough when others are being negative about what we can do, but why do our minds sometimes tell us that we can't do something? It then becomes a negative self-fulfilling prophecy.

Some people, no matter what, play mind games with other people for one reason or another, they can be real skilled at torturing others and pumping people to get them to say or do things out of fear and coercion and force, much like a rapist, all leaders are not good people, nor do they have the best of intentions for everyone, mostly for their own selfish interest whatever those happen to be, so a person that gets involved in some way with some of those kinds of people sometimes ends up being led into self defeating behaviors out of fear and scare tactics, it is sad, we do it because we get tired of trying to stand up against them sometimes, and sometimes we need a break so we just do it, that is a break regardless of how it happens isn't it?

Because we are taught to feel bad about ourselves.

Anything beyond your boundaries becomes a risk and it's easy to fail.

We often times sabotage ourselves due to FEAR! Fear of failure and/or success! Just think.....

there is a lot of changes going on around us... things we don't see or haven't been able to prepare against... we are full of mixed messages , be yourself, do the things you like to do.. be with the people who make you feel better about yourself... who accept you on good and bad days... these are the ways to keep building up the positive...

It is easier to be negative and fail or not try, than to give it you're all,especially if it's something new. Key words to your question is "When others are being negative". Success and failure are the tools for learning. Give yourself a break and go for it. At least try. Most successful people try and fail a lot before they get it right. But they keep trying. You'll gain self confidence, a positive in your favor. Then the negative cheering section will become less and less meaningful to you,you'll hear your own positive voice loud and clear.

Most of us sabotage ourselves out of fear of failure. It's much easier to live with ourselves, if we don't have the constant companion of disappointment. Therefore, we will beat ourselves down, and tell ourselves that we're wrong and loose ever sort of inner self preservation we might have-because we fear failing.

It's a horrible circle, and I believe that ever student in high school should have to take some sort of philosophy class, that will teach them the negative effects our society has on us.

Your state of emotions is the feedback of what you project in the futur

Deep down we may have a fear of succeeding. Or we might feel we don't deserve success.

Good or bad, we have an instinctual comfort level for our current place in life.

We subconsciously may try to maintain that which is comfortable.