I there was something you knew now that you wish you knew when you were younger,

Question:How many of us learn something at a later age that could've been so useful when we were younger. It could've helped us financially, prevented a deep wound that you carry today or just made you more wise. what is it? please share. I'm dying to know.

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: How many of us learn something at a later age that could've been so useful when we were younger. It could've helped us financially, prevented a deep wound that you carry today or just made you more wise. what is it? please share. I'm dying to know.

My first marriage was a killer. He was physically and mentally abusive and sometimes his friends would join in. I had a son by him and he remarried a woman with a lot of money while I struggled. I didn't have a lawyer and no money to afford one that would take a case 2 states away for me to keep custody of my child. He threatened me that I would never lead a normal unharrassed life if I didn't give him my son. Out of fear for myself and my child, I gave in and handed my son over. He was 4 then.
He's 18 now and soon to be 19. Ihaven't seen him in over a year. He holds it against me that I didn't fight harder to keep him. I wasn't found unfit, I just didn't have the money or knowledge to fight. If I would have known what was to be and known that I would lose respect and love from my son, I would have learned about the law, and fought harder then and would not have given up. I miss my son and I try to keep in contact but his anger is still there. I pray all the time that he will understand and know that back then I thought it was the best thing for him and for my family. He went to a better school, got more materialistically that I could never have afforded, and I know his dad wouldn't have helped him if he was living with me. I thought I did the right thing then, now I regret it because I don't even have his friendship. I miss him soooo much and love him soooo deeply. I hope someday he knows this in his heart without me having to tell him or explain it anymore. Everytime he brings it up about this mistake I made, it rips my guts out.
peace

How important my parents were before they passed and how unimportant money is in comparison. I moved away from home to Japan and Ontario for 20 years and did'nt realize how much I missed them till they suddenly passed
You only get one Mom and Dad. money is everywhere

I would have to say the one thing I wish I knew when I was younger was the value of money. As a kid i just thought of quarter as toys. I bet if I saved all the loose change I wasted I'd have about a hundred dollars more in my bank account.

There reaches a point in every relationship when the damage cannot be repaired, and true love is lost.

To trust my gut more. If ihad, I would not have dated the jerk I did as a teen, who ended up harming me emotionally. I still suffer in that I have low self esteem, think of myself as repulsive as he had once rated my looks as a 4 out of 10. I was never hung up about myself before I met him and allowed him to ruin me. I ended up leaving after a very long time.

Thankfully I married a better man.

What can I say. My gut was telling me to say away, but I refused to listen and got burtn emotionally.

I only hope my daughters grow up not making the same mistake I did.

Philosophy is great. Now I know very little about philosophy. If I know a lots about philosophy, I'd be a better parent. Not just a better dad, but a better person. If back then i know philosophy, I think I'd be happier today; but I'm not. I believe that philosophy makes me happy, because this is the field that everyone can be right...I can be right. Unlike Algebra, where not many people can be right. Philosophy makes me stronger physically, mentally, spiritually, socially, and emotionally. Well, I'm not very physically strong, but I don't really need it. This is America, we don't net to fight to win; all we have to do is speak, and we'll win.

To not waste so much time trying to please others, trying to fit in and being completely true to myself. Ultimately the more true you are the rest will happen naturally.