How do I be a man?

Question:You do the difficult thing, because it is the right thing to do.
You make up your own mind, rather than follow the crowd.
You fear, but act anyway.

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker: You do the difficult thing, because it is the right thing to do.
You make up your own mind, rather than follow the crowd.
You fear, but act anyway.

First, you respect women especially your mother. Then you do the right thing every chance you get, (a man knows whats right). Set yourself up as a respectable wage earner, with prospects for advancement. Listen to your parents but stand up for what you believe is right! Protect those around you that are family and friends, (when necessary). Be healthy and respect your body and set an example for those to follow. Remember that you are both man and symbol for what is right, (you never know who you influence and why)! Take responsibility for your actions both right and wrong!

pretend...works for most

Haven't you seen Mulan?

Mysterious as...the dark side of...the moon!

Be honest with yourself and honest to others.
Respect yourself and respect others.
Laugh at the things that are funny, find the time to cry over the things that are sad.
Help when you are able, accept help when you are not able.

Take responsibility for yourself and your actions.

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same:
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

That is a really cool question for you to ask. It's rather deep, and it suggests you actually care about how to be a GOOD man, not just another jerk. There are FAR too few good men out there, so thank you for caring!!!

I read a book about this last year, and it changed the way I think about and see men entirely. I am not a man, so I can't give you advice, but this book is about how to be a man and I think it would change your life in a great way.
It's very detailed, funny, and hailed by many men as THE book for every male to read. If I ever have a son I'm getting it for him.
It's called Wild at Heart by John Eldredge, and you can probably find it in the library, on Amazon, or at your local bookstore.
Good luck on being a man!

First you grow hair on your chest and then you cater to woman to whatever she wants and everything falls into place.

Simple as that.

good old jeffery has got the answer i agree with!!

What ever your society dictates.

Mine: Responsability (diff between man and boy)

The buck stops with you, you are independent.

Dude, just be yourself. Noone truely knows what they are because we are only what we've been taught. We struggle to become individuals by embracing what others have said who inspire us, we often find ourselves looking at them through our own mirror, so every man becomes another as he becomes himself.

Call 1-800-232-6459 http://www.family.org during business hours M-F ask for Counseling dept. State your project, and they'll provide some great references and resources.

"Bringing up Boys," Dr. James Dobson, is good.

Men are energetically 60% active, 40% fulfilling.
Learning to earn is key.
Men tend to prefer respect to love, 60%-40%-wise. Women are the mirror polarity, love more than respect, 60-40.

"For Men Only," Shaunti Feldhahn, http://www.shaunti.com is good, re romance.

"Sacred Psychology of Change," Marilyn Barrick, Ph.D., is helpful.

"How may I be more of a man?" is probably more accurate.
E.g., don't hit ladies (unless in self-defense, lol), read George Washington's "Rules of Civility" is actually more helpful and fun than one might guess: http://www.georgewashington.si.edu/kids/...

Own you decisions and don't blame others for your failures.

hmm, its a familiar question.... and then i remembered that this question was asked by a character in a movie called Lars and the Real Girl.

The scene where...
Lars asked his brother," How did u know u become a man?''.
His brother just kinda shrugged and hesitated to tell but at last he managed to find words to explain.

Looking at the scene, the brother seems to find it hard to find words to explain. i think its really differs to different people, the definition of the factors that turn them into a man.

My opinion:

i guess its a common question that mayb men asked about themselves. i donno. but wat i think is this- i think he will know he has become a man when his perspective change on how he look at his future, his career and how he look at life from when he used to. In short, he learnt to prioritize things in life that are important to him and make big efforts to make changes to improve his life.